my 21yr old hit my ex wife, got arrested, how can I assure the safety of my 5, 11,13 yr old who live there?

Answer 1

Instruct your children who live there to immediately call 911 or you should anything like that happen again

Answer 2

First off, you are DAD, your 21 yr old may be an adult and went to jail for hitting his/her mother, but you are the Father........ you make it very well understood that next time it will be YOU going to jail if he or she ever hits their mother again. EVER. You have to demand respect from the kids today, which means that if you have to put yourself in a comprimising position like say......... go to jail for a night to teach your 21 yr old that you were not kidding and that you won't stand for that kind of treatment to you, your ex-wife, or the other siblings....... then that is what you as the parent must do. You other children are not in danger with their mother, its the 21 yr old you need to grab and make it very well understood that this kind of treatment will not be tolerated. PERIOD. That is not abuse......... What your 21 yr old did was abuse. Parental abuse.......... and you have a right to get your message across.......... and no courtroom is going to sentence a Father for putting his foot down and holding true to his word to stop his child and his other children from abusing him or their mother. You want to get your child help.............. help your child with a warning of if it happens again, there will be no police........ you will jar their memory of your little conversation with them yourself..... and if it happens again............. stand true to your word and show your child you ment business.... I am sorry.... my daughter will never hit me..... if she does, if she thinks she is big enough, she will find out different!!! That is not and will not be tolerated in any fashion or form. I am sorry for your ex-wife..... I hope she is ok.... I am sure her feelings and dignity is damaged more then anything......... along with her heart broken. Blessed be.

Answer 3

He/She is 21 your job was over 3 years ago. They have crossed a line that should have a punishment that fits the crime. See YA Hope that you can afford the first last and deposit. Do not let them back in to your home you are just asking for trouble.

Answer 4

Your 21 yr old hit the mother of your children and he is still living. hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Very interesting.

Answer 5

Get him/her some help. Anger management would go a long way.
If s/he refuses, get a restraining order. It may sound drastic, but you obviously don't feel your children are safe around him/her. Your children can not defend themselves or make the tough decisions. It's up to you to protect them from your ADULT offspring who should know better than to be abusive.

Answer 6

Leave him in jail for a couple of days,if he calls tell him to get used to it.If he is going to run around hitting women he belongs there.Jail is nothing more than an adult version of time out.I have a family member that liked to hit women and I left him in jail for 4 days(he couldn't afford to bail himself out ).He came out a different man,I also told him if he did it again,he an stay in until his trial.It can work,if they are smart enough to figure it out.

Answer 7

You get the 21 year old some help. There are programs for anger management. Sign them up. Have them evaluated for a disorder. Do what you have to do.

Answer 8

I doubt that this was the first time this happened. seek counsel, if it happens again kick hie/her out of the house put a restraining order out on him/her..... but before all of that.... kick a mudd hole in his/her ***...... how dare U hitting Ur mother.....