You know to check our spouses e-mail, cell phone, pockets. Even if they have NEVER given you a reason to doubt them. Is it just human nature, or is it like the snake in the Garden of Eden.......
Some insight would be nice because my husband says he does it because it reassures him. I have never done it......
2006-09-08 01:50:35 · 33 answers · asked by Dre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its human nature to admire and have temptations. I guess it is just about what your priorities are. If your prioritis lie with your husband, then you have nothing to worry about because you will have nothing to hide. For your hubby to do that, you must be quite an attractive women who he finds intimidated and threatened by other male species around you. However, as far as personal stuff goes, I still dont find it ethical for your hubby to pry on your emails. Imagine if you started doing that to him. If he allows it, then i think you have a very transparent relationship, which can be a good thing... But still, you need some space too!
2006-09-08 01:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by bloodyminidriver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has trust issues and if you've never given HIM a reason, then you deserve the same respect and consideration of not having your things gone through. You should DEMAND respect and consideration, you are an adult. end
My husband never gave me a reason to suspect anything, and I don't snoop, never did.
I don't think it's human nature or the "snake", it's just your spouse being insecure and controlling. Stop making excuses and put an end to his bad behavior. Good luck
2006-09-08 02:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that because in my past all the men I had been with had been dogs, they cheated on me and I always found out. So I went into every relationship thinking that this guy would do the same thing. Even if it was a good guy, I just always had that fear. When I started dating my husband I felt the same way and I'd accuse him of it, when he was doign ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong, we talked about it and I realized it was my own insecurities adn I had to work on that. I am now so past that. Occassionally I get a thought but I am able to recognize it as my head just screwing with me and I let it go! I trust my husband completely and things are so much better between us now that I don't let MY insecurities get in our way!!
2006-09-08 02:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay my wife has checked my cell phone, computer and email as I have hers. Not as much we don't trust each other we are just nosy about each other. My wife was checking out my new cell one day and asked me how to see phone number i call and text message and so forth. I showed her how to check. Doesn't but me because I have nothing to hide. Same way with her.
We even set up program to check on our kids when they were smaller. Now we use it so we see what each other does on the computer Kind of cool we talk about it all the time.
2006-09-08 02:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men need reassurance to their egos that they've "still got it"... the ability to attract the opposite sex. It's often considered as "window shopping" or "looking at the menu, but not ordering"
It shall pass in time.
It is human nature, and temptation is the strain against discipline. Whichever one is stronger is the issue...
2006-09-08 02:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because people are insecure,we are waiting to lose the great things that we have.Men can be the worst.I for one trust my lady ,but I have seen what an affair can do to a relationship and that adds to my insecurity,I would never check up on her,I live by the ignorance is bliss rule of thumb.If she is doing it,I probably will never know.
2006-09-08 01:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tom S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never have any temptation to check my wife's e-mail (she stays logged in half of the time)... I never snoop through her phone or any of her personal business. As far as I know she doesn't check behind me.
I honestly think that is one of the main reasons that so many marriages fail now days. People don't trust their spouse and that leads to many other problems. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT TRUST!.
2006-09-08 02:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's something that's done out of insecurity, but only if you have a gut instinct that tells you something needs to be checked out. I think that in a healthy relationship where the couple is honest with each other and there is no reason to feel mistrust you won't do it. (i.e. my first marriage where I never checked anything until I knew in my gut that I had to and lo and behold! huge bigas** affair complete with will you marry me's and everything, even though he was married to me) My relationship now, it wouldn't even occur to me to do that, I just don't need to, I'm that confident of our relationship. But I have to say for your husband to say he does this to re-assure him? I have a problem with that, because the flip side to that is he's already assuming you're doing something wrong and he needs to do this to assure himself that he can trust you. That's kind of weird and a little possessive.
2006-09-08 02:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I envy your husband...you must be beautiful. That's the reason for most mistrust on a man's part. Jealousy will cause us to go nuts. Other guys will look at you, even if you don't see it, he will. It's not necessarily you..probably him. He's paranoid and insecure. If you are beautiful, and I'm sure you are, it would be hard for me to blame him. You have to constantly reassure him. That's the only way to help curb his paranoia
2006-09-08 02:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by flashpro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We only have that temptation if youve been burnt by the other partner cheating or if he has serious control problems. Id tell him in no uncertain terms hes violating your privacy and to stop it immediately since you wouldnt do that to him. He sounds like a real insecure creep...you must be thinking that too.
2006-09-08 02:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋