He is a very hardworking guy but has basically lost the job he loved. he doesn't know what he wants to do and is finding things very hard. I don't want to pressure him but at the same time I want him to find a job (he says he is so bored). What's the best way to help him and do you have any recommendations?
2006-09-08 01:33:41 · 23 answers · asked by Little minx 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He isn't signing on because he doesn't want to sponge
2006-09-08 01:42:42 · update #1
Why not suggest he does some temp work while he figures out what he wants. This way he'll be bringing in some cash and getting some more experience, and he may just find the job of his dreams doing it. Some jobs can turn into permanent jobs as well. Its a win win situation. He wont be bored anymore.
2006-09-08 01:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lilac Lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you financially set? Is he? I assume you both work together and share from the "what is mine is yours, mentality" ~ Well if you are not financially set well it seems that it would be WISE to find an avenue for work, I mean nobody wants to sit around as a "slacker' on someone elses back... you will regret such as you go along in your life. So let's focus on job possibilities. You first have to ask Ok what can I do? I mean you may not find the exact same type of job you had before, but I mean there are jobs out there... There are seemingly a lot of sales jobs that well here is an example you may do one of those jobs for a while and then you "pan out" or you are redirected to another type of job...who knows... but well there is never a "too late" situation as far as going back to get more training whether it be for something in the MEDICAL PROFESSION or the CONSTRUCTION PROFESSION.
It can be hard sometimes to find teh right new direction, especially when you had a job for a while and you lose that job for whatever reason and you have to go try something a little different. The important thing is to keep your head up and always consider options.
Just pick up the paper and start circling what you think may be interesting AND what you are qualified for. Also check hotjobs.com and monster.com
HOPE IN A WORLD WHERE THERE ARE JOBS for EVERYONE WHO WANTS/NEEDS SUCH
2006-09-08 08:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First please recognize that so much of mens esteem is tied to their work, so to be hard on him now without a job is going to make him feel like a failure. I'm sensing he already feels really down on himself and probably depressed. You didn't say how he lost his job, but I'm guessing it wasn't his choice. So you've got a lot of male ego stuff going on. Which isn't bad, not by a long stretch, he's feeling like he can't take care of you (I'm guessing, maybe I'm wrong) If you have a spare $12.00 I recommend this book called "Strengthsquest" it has a test that he can take to determine what his ultimate career should be based on a series of questions. From the results of the tests it breaks your personality down to 4 character types (There's alot more to it than that, and if you want to email me, I'll explain it further, but I have no affiliation with this book and it pretty much saved my life professionally) At the 4 character type level only 1 in 35, 000 people share those characteristics in the order you have them and it gives you an analysis of what you should be doing as a career, when you get to the 8 character types in order, you are 1 in a million which is pretty awesome to know...
2006-09-08 08:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be as supportive as possible, because job loss can be devastating. Each time that he is turned down for a new job is just another blow to his ego. Ask him what you can do to help. You may help update his resume, help him purchase business cards, (real cheap over Internet) to help him network. In the meantime, he could also volunteer as a way to keep busy and network. Who knows he just might meet the right person. Also, this might be an opportunity to look into furthering his education, so that he has more options available.
2006-09-08 08:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by mad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem and decided to do something way out. I went commercial fishing in Dutch Harbor Alaska. When that was done I went to work for a pest inspection company because I hate spiders and such and knew I would never be bored. Point is he needs to try something new to do. Check into schooling, trade college or union based. If all else fails, get his friends and family involved.
2006-09-08 08:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by lvtaride 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have every sympathy, I've been out of work since Easter, and I'm still looking. There will be good days and bad.
I assume he is signing on,
Get the job papers for him, he may have to re-train as well depending on what his current skills are. Also try and write down what skills he has from driving to pc skills to handling cash. See what kind of jobs you can get using these.
Hope he gets something soon
2006-09-08 08:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by daisymay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him! Let him know that you are there for him and will stand behind him in decision that he makes. Also let him know that he can do anything. Maybe he just needs a little bit of love and support from you. Let him know that you are there. Also, don't be mean about the situation. That might make him feel low. And I'm pretty sure that he already feels that way.
2006-09-08 08:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5171989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to sign up with a temp agency - at least that'll get some money coming and get him off his botty as well as giving him the flexibility to just ship should something better come along.
My ex-boyfriend lost his a few years ago and drove me mental by refusing to take work he considered 'beneath him' whilst leaving me to stuggle with all the bills. He certainly was depressed but that doesn't mean he could sit around watching Magnum PI all day.
2006-09-08 08:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by lovelyemmavictoria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be supportive he will be feeling really low at the moment and will need you to help him. He has lost something he really loved and he doesn't want to feel like something else he really loves has turned on him. Buy him the local job papers and help him with his CV. I know he should probably be doing this himself but quite a few of us men are terrible at looking after ourselves and need a kick up the backside from out better halfs.
2006-09-08 08:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Barry Von Leotard III 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is be there for him, i was made redundant and my girlfriend was there to support me, she reasearched the thing i love doing,seeing what jobs, found jobs for me to apply and what not, and interveiws she always text me to say "good luck baby, do your best, and remember no matter what, i'll always love you" that really got me prepared for an interveiw, knowing that even if i didn't get it, she would still stand next to me
just give him the support he needs, he'll be a bit distant and fustrated but don't take it personally, your on the right track trust me, don't put pressure on him, let him do it in his own time, just drop sly hints, ask him how the hunting is goign and what not
2006-09-08 09:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by me-jus-me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋