Once she was in love with me, but now she hates me like anything. I want to Marry her but she not even want to talk to me. She is impressed with him and likes him.
I never intend to hurt her, I thought Truth cannot be hidden for long, some or other day, say after years of her marrage, if he comes to know by someone else, then it would be problem. So, I told him everything. He refused to marry her.
I was not in myself to think, I'm totally confused and dont know what to do?
She likes him. Sometimes I think I should meet him again and tell him that I told him all lie.
Please help me. Advise me. What should I do?
2006-09-08 01:29:58 · 15 answers · asked by Sash1548 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you friends for answering my question.
YES, I have done the biggest mistake in my life. It was not at all my part to tell him, still I have done it.
I used to tell her that she should tell him the truth, as I was worried if he comes to know from some other people, it is really bad. Becouse he had already shared with her about his first love and breakoff and was expecting her to be honest.
I was sure that he will marry her afterknowing everything coz he too likes her.
But I could not present this is a proper way, he was not ready to listen me anymore and I come to know that he decided NOT to marry her.
This all happened becouse of me.
Please advise me what shoud I do.
I am feeling very guilty.
2006-09-09 06:10:31 · update #1
You should have kept you mouth shut. She meant to have a fling before being married (right or wrong on her part). You can't expect her to be happy with you for going around her back to tell her fiance. You got used. Hope you enjoyed it. Move on!
2006-09-08 01:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why's everybody getting on him like she was some innocent bystander? He's not the only one who made a mistake, so did she. She's the one who ruined her own happiness, not him. She promised her fiance that she'd be loyal to him, then she turned around and cheated on him. The only innocent person here is her fiance. She doesn't deserve any less heartache than Sash.
Just because you love her now, it doesn't mean that you will always love her. You will look back on her and your time with her fondly, but you will move on and meet other women and fall in love again. But for now, apologize to her and explain to her that in your desperation you made a huge mistake, then move on from her. Let her either fix her relationship with her fiance, or move on with her life alone without either one of you. And never break another person's trust in you again and don't get involved with another man's woman again.
2006-09-08 01:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch...wrong move, sorry to say. I think you could have and should have approached the situation a lot different.
I'd also recommend that you don't go back to him and lie about telling him the truth. If anything, ask to speak with him and let him know how you feel and the fact that you needed to tell him. Advise him that you didn't want to ruin their relationship. Your Kama-Kazi approach appears to have been very destructive.
These wounds might take time to heal for all of you!
2006-09-08 01:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have done enough damage and i think it'll be better if you stay away from her n her life!!
why cant you just accept he simple fact that she does not love you any more and is not interested in being with you,why do you need such a person,dont u think u deserve someone who woul love and respect you equally....how can u go to an extend to interfering in her life,by doing so you have created more hatred fro yourself in her heart....and i feel you did this purposely to mess her life and happiness,u should be ashamed,just live your life and let others live theres!!
2006-09-08 01:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS is why you dont get involved with folk who are already involved. You both got caught up in a taboo relationship and you both got what you deserved....NO BODY WINS and EVERYONE is hurt. I feel bad for her fiance but I am glad he didn't marry her with her cheating asss; and you....go lick your wounds in the corner and learn the lesson here.....DON'T BE A CHEATER!
2006-09-08 01:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did a bad thing to someone to cared about and you did do it with the full intention that she would want to marry you and you were wrong. You ruined her relationship and you will never have her.
2006-09-08 01:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you meddling pr**k. You went to him with the full intention of breaking them up. How embarrassing it must be for her that she ever knew you. Now you have really messed up her happiness. You are a low life. Crawl back into your hole.
2006-09-08 01:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not your place to tell him anything. It was hers. She has every right to be p*ssed at you. Learn to stay out of her business. As far as meeting the fiance again, don't! You've done enough. Let them resolve this problem themselves.
2006-09-08 01:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your sake and for hers. If you really love her, you will always love her. Love comes with respect. Respect her enough to go and tell him the truth. In her heart she will always remember you the most. Apologize to everyone who knew. Its embarrassing, but if you love her like I feel you do, then its worth it.
2006-09-08 01:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think thats's to late to have her back,apllugize to her,say something to her like you want her 4ever but still confusing in my mind that if im ready to have a commitment,so we have to wait and have time to think bout what we want,getting to have a marriage to a person is not quite easy to decide if your also too young,&want to explore more in your life & to yourself, you two have a lots of time to think,whenever you both love each other..........
2006-09-08 02:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋