We have been married for 6 years, I am a stay at home
dad, well the baby hasn't been born yet, it is a
rewarding job. She wants me to get a job outside the home.
Should I stay with her, I love her. I am begining to wonder
if she still loves me. Her ranting is starting to annoy me.
the baby is due in 2 months, IT'S A BOY!
2006-09-08 01:20:23 · 48 answers · asked by msboobhead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a job jackass
2006-09-08 01:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by mj23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years of being married with her and now getting her pregnant and you are asking if you should leave her. Why? I don't get it.
Most important though is SHE IS PREGNANT!
The hormones in her body are driving her crazy and it's only normal for a pregnant woman to rant. If it's only her ranting that's annoying you and making you feel like you should leave her, then you know something? you are really immature. What's going to happen when bigger problems come along? and you are complaining about a pregnant woman's ranting? Get Real.
Is it that now you don't want all the responsibility? And what's this that you're a "stay at home dad and that it's a rewarding job"? So she's 7 months pregnant and she is the one that has to go out to work to support you and you still have the guts to complain?
If your so upset about her ranting and she wants you to get a job outside of the home, then do so and you'll make her happy 'cause you'll help with bringing home the bacon and you will be happy 'cause you won't have to hear her "ranting"
2006-09-08 01:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by hilda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she has hormones right now and she will go off over a feather hitting the floor. Second what is the big deal with you working outside the home. If you have no kids yet you are not a stay at home dad you are just around the house. Do you cook and clean or watch TV all day. If you are actually working around the House that is fine but if she is coming home and doing everything you are a free loader.
Now if you are doing all the house, trust me I know how hard that is, then you need to try to have a calm conversation with her about her waiting until after the baby is born. Maybe she is wanting to be a stay at home mom for a while. Maybe she just thinks that you will need more money after the baby.
The tricky part will be taking to her without her going nuts.
I wish you luck.
2006-09-08 01:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by passionparties_by_suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just leave because she's annoying you. For the child's sake, and for the sake of the love you feel for her, do everything you possible can to save your marriage. Go to counseling. Try everything.
Her ranting might have to do with her pregnancy. Her hormones are all crazy now, so be patient with her. She's doing the hard work of carrying the baby, all you have to do is be patinet.
If she was a nag before the pregnancy, then find a counselor and go talk about your issues with each other and try to work them out. And mention the fact that you're not sure she loves you anymore. She's gonna have to put in the effort to prove otherwise. You guys are bringing another human being into the world, so get to work working on your relationship problems now. You owe your son to try everything to give him a good family life. And get a job! Your son's not born yet! She probably feels a lack of stability right now especially with you not working and she's freaking out. Give her a break.
2006-09-08 01:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you a stay at home dad when the child has not yet been born? You should be working until the little guy comes along. Just because she wants you to get a job, you are thinking of a divorce? That isn't a mature thing. The two of you should go to counseling. Also remember her body is going thru alot right now so give her some slack.
2006-09-08 01:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i get where your coming from. Thats also part of my problem. I've been married for almost 4 years. At first, things were great. She would do everything for me, without me asking. We have a 2 year old girl with epilepsy. . . . My wife don't wanna do anything except come home, sleep, and eat. . . . I do everything. I work 40 hours a week, i run and pay bills, i cash both of our checks, I go get our daughters medicines filled, i keep, or try to keep the house clean. She don't pick up after herself, and most of the time when i'm here, she don't watch our daughter. Last night while i was at work, i tried to call my wife, and she wouldn't pick up the phone. she had fallen asleep in the bed, with the door open, and our daughter wondered out of the room. Came home, and found the printer was broke (i have fixed it tho). . . she's lazy. . . she's always asking me to do everything. God gave her 2 legs, and she needs to use them. when she's settin on the couch, and i'm layin in the bed, she'll hollar at me to go get her a cup of tea or something. . . . I do it, just because of the person i am. I am wore down, and gettin sick. I'm staying weak all the time, cuz i'm havin to do all the runnin. . . . . And i'm like you, i can't take it anymore.
2006-09-08 01:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by mulberry_hs_graduate_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a baby coming in two months. Before the baby is born, you never were a stay-at-home DAD, the only person who will properly call you that will be your child. Nice euphemism for a bum, BTW, that "stay-at-home" thing. Now your wife is asking you to get a job and all you think about is to cop-out of your marriage and your responsibility as a husband and as a father? Aw, come on, man!
2006-09-08 01:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a stay at home dad, you are a bum awaiting the birth of your child so that you can legitimize your irresponsible behavior. You give real stay at home dads a bad name. How would you even know if the job is rewarding if you haven't even experienced it yet? The question is should your wife stay with you. You have to stay with her because you have no outside means of support and you know this. She obviously does not need you. If you can't be a responsible father and provide financial support for your family then you should definitely leave.
2006-09-08 01:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a stay at home day because your baby isn't born yet. You are doing nothing right now and that is lazy. Get a job, any job and help your wife make a living. When the baby is born then you can classify yourself as stay at home dad.
2006-09-08 02:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations.How can you be a stay at home dad if the baby is'nt here yet? Your wife is right,you should go out and get a job.You're feeling so sorry for yourself,but it's your wife who's carrying the baby,not you.Sorry,I know it's not the answer you were looking for,but I would have thrown you out some time ago....that's if you're serious.No wonder she rants,get off your backside,get a job and think of how she's feeling,and not yourself.Do you really expect your son to respect a daddy who's fluffing up cushions and washing dishes? I think he would grow to respect a daddy who goes out to work and provides for his family.Please pass on my sympathy to your wife
2006-09-08 01:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her hormones are a bit over the place but I can understand the fact that she wants you go get a job. How can you be a stay at home dad when the baby hasn't been born yet.
2006-09-08 01:22:29 · answer #11 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋