I bestmates friend (T) is ot talking to me because her ex boyfriend groped my bottom and my best mate said she should tell T (I agreed at the time). I'm upset T is not talking to me because I did not flirt with this guy and did nothing wrong.
I'm upset because my mate L is still talking to T (not a problem in itself because she can talk to who she wants). the thing that upsets me is she wants to meet up for clubbing with my best mate and T and said they were meeting up whether I was going or not. I'll go because I feel I have nothing to be ashamed of and intend to have a word with T and state my case but I feel there shuld be some sort of Loyalty from L. Am I right? Also what should I do?
2006-09-08 01:17:00 · 15 answers · asked by Little minx 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my mate L met my best mate and T through me
2006-09-08 01:18:15 · update #1
I'm so sorry if I'm confusing you but can't think of an easier way to put it!!!!
2006-09-08 01:20:21 · update #2
I think your best mate's friend wants to grow up fast ... you say it was her EX boyfriend so why is she so p**sed off with you?
Go out with them and have a word in her ear ... your other "mate" shouldn't have a problem with either of you so I don't understand her attitude - has she another reason for not asking you? You haven't had her b/f feel your b*m have you? ;-)
2006-09-08 03:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by telling T that her bf groped your bottom. If you do go out with them, things should be OK as long as you don`t make silly comments and try your best to be civil towards T. L has become a friend to T also, so she should divide his/her loyalties between the both of you, rather than take sides in the matter.
2006-09-08 01:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe, you did nothing wrong there whatsoever, its not your fault the guy groped you....and your friend T is being immature and selfish, i mean, hey they arent even going out, so where's the problem here?!
What you need to do is talk with her, you really havent done anything wrong, and if your friend is upset in any way, its always wise to clear it up - dont ever let guys come in between friends
And dont be too hard on your other friend L because seems like to me, she is stuck in the middle, so she doesnt know what to do at the moment, let this silly thing pass because men are not worth it!
2006-09-08 01:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Terious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely your husband wanting to face through you, thats the biggest ingredient the following. Your mil is merely disillusioned that she will be able to be certain her son a lot less now and he or she is merely taking it out on you. Dont take it own, i understand its complicated although. What you should do is probable precise her a note telling her the way you sense and that she desire no longer hardship about you stealing her son because you're merely taking on the function she use to play because it really is now her turn to tackle her new function as grandma. She desires to positioned all her interest into spoiling those childrens in a powerful way for sure and therfor wont have time to nonetheless agonize about her son. to boot he's a tremendous boy now and desires to be on authentic of issues of his personal life. Whisvh he's doing. Your mil is merely feeling somewhat jealous and abandoned even if it is going to blow over. interior the interim you should merely keep on being powerful to her and perchance contact her a minimum of once each and every 2d day or so, only for a lengthy time period, make her sense like you sense its significant to you that she knows the way you all are. She cant vent her anger in direction of her son because she knows he will positioned her in her position right away. yet be the least, take her crap yet to boot attempt to understand why she acts that way. Dont get me incorrect, what whe is doing is amazingly infantile and immature yet its a classic reaction maximum mils get. So attempt to bare with her and attempt making her sense somewhat more beneficial significant. it is going to advise more beneficial to her coming variety you than her son.
2016-10-15 23:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are allowing yourself to get worked up over nothing. If they want to behave like children, let them - and show them you can be grown up about the matter. Incidentally, what is it you think you have done to deserve loyalty from L?
2006-09-08 01:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is the scum bag who pinched your bottom and your freind T probably wants to blame you so she does not have to blame him, try to explain that you did nothing to warrant his actions but don't just blame him or she might become defensive. With regards L she might be trying to stay nautral and not take sides, she is inviting both of you out so I think she just does not want to choose between you both.
2006-09-08 01:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its nice 4 u 2 rite a long compo but da problem is i cant understand think a thing u r tryin 2 say. plz put it in a good way if u want an answer.
2006-09-08 04:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by mir 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up, the 3 of you.
2006-09-08 01:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by RRM 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go and have a good time and don't make such a big deal out of it.
2006-09-08 01:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should all three's up on the bloke that groped your bottom!
2006-09-08 01:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Teddy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋