i am 29 year old divorcee. I left my first husband for this man and his daughter only. he had created a lot of castles and i got carried away by them. He lied to me about virtually his own existance. But after coming to know also iam going on living with him. He has a daughter who is physically chalenged. I want to leave him but i am unable to do it because i know he will be destroyed if i do that. He does not have a steady job also. I am at a good post in a good co. i am disappointing my mother also to stay with this man. What do you think i should do.
2006-09-08 01:01:32 · 18 answers · asked by Ekta H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you want wake up one day ten years from now and realize you just wasted another ten years of your life on a man you do not love? It sounds like you are only staying to make others happy when you should be trying to find your own happiness. You took a chance on this guy and you failed no shame in that if you hadn't taken the risk you would have regretted not taking it. You should move on with your liofe and find someone you are happy with that is also happy with You. Everyday passed is a day you could have been happy. Don't live your life to regret it there is nothing owrse than that. good luck.
2006-09-08 01:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmmmm well Ekta i wouldnt agree with you that you dont love him yet you are worried that he be ruined etc. Actually love is multi faceted emotion and when you worry for some one and/or care that is also love.
There is woman behind every successful man why dont you encourage him and be that special motivation and make him do something and dumping him is not a way out there is no guarantee that you would find some one better.
This is what my heart just told me to tell and if you understand and agree with my point then stay with him otherwise do as you may please.
Thanx!
2006-09-08 08:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Take a sabbatical for atleast 6months to get your head around. Dont think you gave yourself enough time to get the previous relationship out of your head. You owe it to yourself to find out from within what your priorities are. Once you do that you can start life over. Dont be in a tearing hurry to hook up with someone just let your heart and mind heal and work on building yourself. Start working on some hobbies, interests that you have. This will give you solace and help you heal.
2006-09-08 10:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wy stay and be miserable, you are 29 years old and you divorced a man because you was un happy and now you are un happy again. Why live a lie? You live only once, from what you know and to stay with him is going to slowly dimish your existance.. Let him know that you are not ready for what he wants right now and go.. Leave.. Do this for you, and only for you .. not for your mom or for his feelings. Take your feelings in account, no one loves you more then you love yourself. Take care of yourself your mind state and your well being..
Take care
2006-09-08 08:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by pretty_lesbiian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is are you happy ?? if you are not happy life is to short to be unhappy and feeling down on yourself. the truth is you don't owe this man anything he made this fantasy up to make you leave your husband filled your head full of lies, he will make it if you leave as he made it before you came into the picture. ya he will probably say he will kill himself and all that other crap just to keep you but i am telling you life is way to short to live unhappy. if you had a girl friend lie about everything she has ever told you would you hang around her?? chances are you would not!! go with your heart!and dont worry about the daughter she will be fine.
2006-09-08 08:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by ljjmollie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have to decide whose feelings are more important to you....yours or his? If you want to be miserable for the rest of your life...stay with him. If you want the chance for happiness you need to do what YOU want and that is to leave. He has lied to you about everything and not a steady job...are you kidding me? I would leave him. If possible maintain a relationship with his daughter but I would be OUT!!
2006-09-08 08:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, your sacraficing your own happiness and that of your mother for a serial liar? How do you know whether he will be really destroyed or will move on to the next best Mother for his daughter?
I think you know what to do. You do not need our permission to do it.
2006-09-08 08:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot leave him if he is going to be destroyed by you doing that. Rather wait till he destroys you and he leaves.-----This is plain sarcasm.
Leave the fool and carry on with your life. You are no kid anymore and have the rest of your life ahead of you.
2006-09-08 08:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its ghight time you get away from him,you were with him for love and to love but now you dont love him then whats holding you back!!
talk to him and let him about this and move out...always remember that you should do what makes you happy and not just for the heck of it!!good luck!!
2006-09-08 08:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be happy and live your own life.
Get out.
2006-09-08 08:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋