I'd really want to discuss this with women who are in a similar situation.
2006-09-08 01:00:56 · 20 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Check to see if your state will allow you to get an annulment since the marriage is less than a year...
2006-09-08 01:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes him a "monster"? Is he truly that mean and abusive towards you? Or is it just that he's not the "prince charming" you were expecting before marriage? In any case, talk to him about his problem first, be it anger issues or abuse. Let him know that you are not going to accept that kind of behaviour, and unless he changes, you will leave him. But be supportive. Tell him you will help him in any way you can, and that you ultimately want things to work out between the two of you (especially if you are pregnant). If he still doesn't try to change, then involve your families. You should talk to his parents and your parents about what's going on, so that they will all support you incase the situation does not improve. In the end, if he's still a monster, you've got to get out of that marriage. Hope this helps, and good luck!
2006-09-08 08:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in a similar situation but I helped a friend who was.
Her husband had a nervous breakdown and became extremely paranoid. He cut her off from the bank account, kept track of her every movement and even followed her. He would accuse her of having affairs even though she'd been out doing the shopping with the two kids. She had to get away and she did.
She set up a place to go (a friend's place) and then one day when he was at work, she moved out. She rang him and said for her to meet him at a nice place that night for dinner (crowded place). She told him very calmly and quietly that she couldn't live like that anymore. He couldn't get angry or upset because there were lots of people around. She had a friend also in the restaurant and when it was time to leave, she left with her so he couldn't follow her.
She then got a restraining order to keep him away.
2006-09-08 08:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you unhappy then you really need to get out. If you are in fear of getting out, due to mental or physical abuse contact the police or a women's shelter. There are resources out there to help.
I really am not sure what the surroundings of why you want to leave but you have your reasonings... Just know that there are people out there that do care
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-08 08:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusing you, call the hotline for abused women and they will help get you out of this situation. But you are also going to need documentation for the courts. But if you are just wanting out because you are running into problems, ask if he wants to go to counseling with you. If he doesn't then get yourself a good attorney and file the papers and leave.
2006-09-08 08:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monsters only get worse. I am a woman who walked away from it. I unfortunately had to move to another town and change my name.
As far as how, JUST GO!!!! Don't look back, ever. You may love him but it aint worth it. You will love again.
If financial problems keep you there remember physical security is more important. A financial problem will never be resolved if you are DEAD!!
2006-09-08 10:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your stuff when he is for sure to be gone for a while, if you have proof of what your implying, file a restraining order the same day, cause most "monster" men will be pissed, and possibly come after you. Protect yourself first!!!!!
2006-09-08 08:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As described ur question u identified ur husband a moster that clears ur idea about him.You didn't answer that what are the problems between you and ur husband.if this is a arrange marriage then what he desires.You can show ur flirting side with other guys may he be jealousy and argue with you at that time you can tell ur feelings in front of him.If despite this activity ur marraige doesn't break then please tell me a brief story of ur marriage.i will clear ur problem u trust me.
2006-09-08 08:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by sudhir k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation but am not HAPPILY divorced. Hon, go to your local family court and file for divorce. See if you can do a Pro Se divorce (which means do it yourself) It cost me $250 to file for the divorce and $90 to serve the bastard. Once filed you go to court in 90 days and your divorce is granted. This is how it was for me anyways. I was divorced Jan 2005. G'luck!
2006-09-08 08:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get your own place without him knowing it.
2. When he is away pack all your things
3. Get out
4. Get a Lawyer
5. Get a divorce
6. Move on with your life
2006-09-08 08:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋