Why does a woman want to change the man she fell in love with?

Question

She was obviously attracted to him for the way he looked and she must have been impressed with his personality and lifestyle, so???

Answer 1

Because women are never satisfied. There's a good joke about a husband store:

A woman walks in and on the ground floor, there's a sign saying that all men on this floor are good looking, the better models are upstairs.
She goes to the first floor, the sign says that the men on this floor are good looking and have jobs, better models are upstairs.
On the second floor the sign says that the men on this floor are good looking, have jobs and drive nice cars. Better models available upstairs.
So it goes on and on each floor the men get better and better.
On the 19th floor the sign says "These men are good looking, have high-powered jobs, drive expensive sports cars, have large penises, are fantastic lovers, own country masion houses, have yachts, are great with kids and are completely faithful. Better models available upstairs.
The woman reaches the 20th floor and reads the sign.
"There are no husbands on this floor. This floor only exists to prove that no matter what is on offer, women will always want more. Thankyou for using the husband store."

Answer 2

There can be any number of reasons why a woman would want to change the man she fell in love with. It isn’t just relevant to women… a lot of men try to change the women they fell in love with as well.

There is a big difference between a single relationship and married relationship for example. The man that the woman fell in love with may have been everything she could have wished for whilst they were single. With marriage however, comes a lot of added responsibilities, and the need for additional commitment. Where the man may have been carefree, and to a certain degree ‘irresponsible’ during the single relationship, there is a need for change in the married relationship, particularly if there are children involved.

Another factor to consider is that the man may have been ‘footloose and fancy-free’ when the woman first fell in love with him, and he probably was quite free in his relationships with other women. Once they become an item, it is understandable that the woman would want to become the focus of the man’s attention, and she wouldn’t want him to continue flirting with other women. The man would expect the same from her as well.

Answer 3

You know as human beings we are growing all the time...what was acceptable to someone a few years ago, may not be now simply because they have grown, and changed...sometimes this is what happens in relationships, sometimes there is no real, or apparent reason for it,...it just happens...some people decide that they want more, than what they were settling for...this is the difference between saying "I love you, and "I'm in love with you, me and my partner are in love with each other, so nothing changes, we grow together, and have learnt to love selflessly. The difference when someone loves a person because they think that person is attractive, or beautiful this love is fine, but there is no substance...it's not deep love as to what can we give to each other...it's more like what can this person give/do for me that's not love at all, and love like this wont last for long...I'm sorry if this has happened to you, but there is real love to be found. Good luck.

Answer 4

we all tend to change after the wedding, men and women alike. We stop doing the things we did to attract our partner and often revert to doing things we did when we were single. If needs aren't acknowledged on both sides (and we should put our partner's needs above our own) then things go downhill rapidly. To be honest, we also tend to overlook certain aspects of our partners habits or lifestyle at first because their other points seem to outweigh the ones we don't like. This is an unhealthy thing to do as the cracks willl show during the following years.

Answer 5

If a woman is trying to change a man, then it is time to end the relationship. If you were to get married it will only get worse. I would say that inexperienced women and even some expeienced feel that they can change a man. For some reason women have this thing where they think, "If he likes me enough he will change for me". "Now he is telling me he loves me so he will change". "We are having sex so he will do anything for me". More experience women know that does not work. You accept a person how they are and as you met them. You get to know them thoroughly before making any longterm committments with them and then make a decision with your brain and not your libido.

Women do the same thing if they get involved with a married man. They think he will leave his marriage to go to her because she is having sex with him. Women put love and sex together. Men think what does love have to do with sex. If you look at it from the standpoint of a woman you are having sex with, then she might always think she can change you.

Just keep open communication to put some of those devils to rest.

Answer 6

Nobody can change anybody, it has to be our choice to change and one of you two were playing games in the beginning, either one of you were playing or you were turning the blind eye to the things that the other was doing or the other was a fake putting on their best behaviour and after a while got tired of putting on the nice front and the real person came out, so with out any more information would be hard to know how to aswer this question.

Answer 7

Not all women want to change the person they fell in love with .. after all in the end .. you fell in love with the person they are - as well you can never change a person into something else.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 8

Although she may have been attracted to him, she probably didn't realise he had a little 'quirk' which she may have found annoying. She would be changing him for the better. But maybe she isn't changing him as such, she is just doing it to so that she won't have to deal with the annoying 'quirk' more than she has to. She believes she maybe finding a balance between this annoying thing and the rest of him that she loves.

Answer 9

You can't feel in love with someone and in the end change him. There must be a reason...First maybe the girl maybe is just attracted to him and didn't really loved him then overtime attractioned fade. Next the guy must be doing something she didn't like and make her unhappy.

Answer 10

I think women expect their relationship to evolve into whatever they perceive as normal settled life because there are defined stages in a womans brain and when a man does not mould or grow into that image the women try and make them starting with gentle persuasion then nagging. Women change and grow into their roles as housewife,cook,cleaner,mother and wage earner and men often stay boys doing only the minimum to avoid another nag.