My wife and I bought a tricycle for my son for his birthday this weekend. A coworker has informed me that I should also buy a separate gift for my son, is this correct? Am I a deadbeat if I don't buy a separate gift, just from dad?
2006-09-08 00:50:08 · 33 answers · asked by hfacto 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
no ive never heard of seperate gifts before its a strange one that. tell him to go and boil his head
2006-09-08 00:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Big Sigh,,, since when is love for a child related to how much is given/received, or who gives what? Think about this also,,, The tricycle was a totally inappropriate gift for a 1 year old,,,gee.
I also assume you have your own mind, and are not strictly driven by what others think or say.
Take the tricycle back, both Mom and Dad can choose A GIFT that suits a one year old child and enjoy the fact that he is with you. At his age he will very likely not ride the bike, get hurt on it if he tries, be more comfortable with something more age appropriate, and NEVER remember it anyway. Beyond that I seriously doubt he is keeping a ledger with entries about who gave what and when, and how much,,,
Rev. Steven
2006-09-08 01:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by DIY Doc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please!,what is most important is that you were there to celebrate his birthday with him also, now that tricycle has created a great opportunity for you to spend even more time with him when you are teaching him how to use it. Don't get caught up in the way others would or should say you should have done it follow your heart, I am 20+ now and still longing for the day when my dad would just SHOW UP, if only to wish me a happy b-day!
2006-09-08 02:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never got individual gifts from each parent, and I can't see any reason for your coworker to even suggest such a thing. Sounds like he has jealousy issues with his own wife regarding their children or something. It's just downright weird.
Even if you were divorced/seperated, if you present the gift as being from "Mom & Dad" that would still be not only ok, but probably a good thing for a child of divorce.
2006-09-08 01:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you and your wife are together. The only time I have heard of parents buying separate gifts is if they are separated. Does the coworker practice this whole idea?? And, Happy 1st Birthday to your son!!!
2006-09-08 00:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by tmh_31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Gifts can be from both parents or each parent. Some families might have a certain tradition concerning gifts. Like for milestone birthdays they might like to give the child something special that is from each of them. But no, it isn't a requirement and you are certainly not a deadbeat for not doing it.
2006-09-08 01:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son will never remember; this idea is only relevant in regards to your WIFE (who will remember ALWAYS).
My kids are 9 ad 13 and I don't remember if I got them a separate gift for their first birthday. Neither child is in therapy, both are happy and get along fine. With a child, you have enough to worry about!
Good Luck. It's a lot of work being Dad.
2006-09-08 00:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by n0witrytobeamused 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If both parents buy a separate gift is up to them to decide if you decide to go in together to buy a gift than everything is fine. If the two of you decided that you both should also buy separate gift then that is what you do. Talk to your wife about it and see how she feels.
2006-09-08 00:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by passionparties_by_suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has never bought a gift for our three kids. I wonder if your coworker thinks it is a father/son bonding thing? We have three girls. Maybe your coworker is thinking of a football? That might be kind of nice to start a tradition where every year you get him something in a theme (like sports, stuffed animals, toy cars).
If you don't want to then, don't. Your coworker should mind their own business.
2006-09-08 00:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Misty350 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get the mom a gift to celebrate this wonderfull day! That is very romantic, unexpected and she'll be on your site if anyone may have comments about you not getting a separate gift! Good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-08 00:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by CJ O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, usually birthday gifts are assumed to be from both parents, not just one. We never had separate gifts from either parent, anything we got was from the both of them. Don't listen to your coworker, let he or she do what they want. (Well, you can be polite and listen, but I mean you don't have to do what he or she says...)
2006-09-08 02:06:39 · answer #11 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋