why is it not seen as alright for two people in a life long companionship to have other sexual partners throughout their lives as long as both are always open and honest about it ??
2006-09-08 00:41:59 · 15 answers · asked by SUFI 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nobody wants to be with a whore (male or female).
2006-09-08 00:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because Modern Americans under the influence of Evangelical Christians can only justify committing an act deemed foul dirty horrid by sanctioning it with a romanticize vision of a holy union so perfect only two people can fit into the equation. Actually several ancient cultures contribute to this notion. In India & Pakistan widows are frequently emcouraged to throw themselves into a blazing fire rather than sully the memory of her late husband by getting involved in a relationship with another man. Christians actually believe that sex taints people thus it is impossible for partners to be 'open & honest,' about something that is inherently wrong. In their heart & soul Evangelical Christians feel that two people should only have sex to produce children therefore the thought of seeking out sexual partners is repellent.
Personally I think people should have the maturity to handle the thought that their partner has had other partners yet on a majority of television comedies it is treating as shock & horror when someone revealls that they are neither a virgin or if they have had more than one partner. Speaking of which, women can go to their favorite reconstructive surgeon and have their hymen restored just so their new mate doesn't freak out on the wedding nigt. Yikes. Nuff said - - - these are weird freaky times.
2006-09-08 07:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by JVHawai'i 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are generally designed to be monogamous. Most people are not capable of not feeling betrayed if their partner has an affair. Not only that but a sexual relationship with an outside partty often leads to emotional attachment to that person. Emotional attachment to someone outside your relationship will surely rip appart your marriage.
Just because you are open and honest about it, doesn't mean it's not going to hurt the other person. And consenting to being with other people and letting your partner be with other people is a dicing thing to do with your relationship. Where they might find sexual gratification in someone else, they may also find other forms of gratification and decide to leave you,or you them. Still, some swingers seem to do ok. I've never heard of any swingers that have stayed married their entire lives though.
2006-09-08 07:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is alright, the way it's perceived by society and religious points-of-view is irrelevant. As long as both partners agree it should be fine. The catch lies in how well you can let go but still hold on.
Swingers do this all the time, and I know some couples who have successful married lives who swing, it's no big deal, as long as honesty and trust take precedence the relationship will work.
2006-09-08 08:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by yasiru89 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it seems that would be up to the couple in question.. But most times it does not work and somebody gets hurt.. Alot of times, one spouse is doing it just to make the other happy and that eventually will catch up to them.. Besides with everything that is going around, STD wise, why take the risk.. Half of what is wrong with today's relationships is the inability to commit totally to one person..
2006-09-08 07:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by Termite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, maybe that's because of some little problem called AIDS!!!!If you're both into it and use protection, go for it. I've heard that those things get way out of hand and it causes fights. But, whatever, do whatever the hell you want, but it's wrong, because marriage means to stay faithful to one person for the rest of your life and only love one person and only make love to your husband/wife.I cant imagine to ever do that to my husband. It's horrible!!!
2006-09-08 07:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can if as you say your both open about it. But who is? Feelings etc usually get in the way and before you know 1 of you will be jealous etc and it will end.
2006-09-08 07:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Platinum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you NOT there when the marriage vows were read and exchanged? Does the part about "..forsaking all others" ring a bell? If you want to bed hop, why get married at all?
2006-09-08 07:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I have known people who have done that, and it never works. Eventually one will leave the other, or jealousy arises, or both.
2006-09-08 07:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Movie Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who say's it not alright, if you both discuss this and are comfortable with it then go for it. Just use protection.
2006-09-08 07:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sara_V. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called swaping, if both agree doing it with outhers, then is ok it a life style not for everyone, make sure you feel ok with seeing your partner with someone else haveing sex??? its a big step
2006-09-08 08:04:57 · answer #11 · answered by michsunlover1948 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋