when we first got together she said that we would have a kid together after my step daughter turned 5 she turned five and she still didint want to have a kid with me a few years have passed i stopped asking and was ok with not having any biological children of my own then we stopped using birth control and she got pregnant when i asked her why did she wanted to get pregnant form me she said that she felt obligated to have a kid with me because we have been together for so long (8 yrs)she has two daughters from two other men. she was with her ex-bf for a month maybe when she got pregnant and when he found out she was pregnant he split that day and have never returned the other father was when she was 15 yrs old and only with him once. i dont know what to do or think this has hurt me alot i put in alot of time and effort to be the best dad i can be to her daughters and love them very much
2006-09-08 00:40:56 · 10 answers · asked by herbsn900 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure about the question or your concern... you were blessed with a child from God. Despite your hurt and pain, you cherish that little miracle everyday and the bond you develop as father and child will quickly replace those ill feelings.
2006-09-08 00:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am wondering if she just used a bad choice of wording. Don't take what she said personally and just let it roll off your shoulders. You could also interprete it as her keeping her word to you. Having a child is not something to take lightly. Maybe she was not ready for a third at the time her oldest turned 5 and just decided to wait. Now you have your own child on the way or already born. Congratulations!!. Talk to her about what she meant with feeling obligated. That might help you feel better.
2006-09-08 00:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are dealing with a lot issues. It says that when you first got together with her she said she would have a kid with you and now she is following through. Maybe she felt obligated because she had made this promise to you. Continue to be a good dad to her other children and when the new baby comes, love him/her as well. You will be fine.
2006-09-08 00:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, i think of that's great which you're so sort and giving. yet i might agree that she plans on utilising you as her 'backup plan' while her husband is going decrease back to penal complex. She is familiar with this is going to take place, yet she and her husband make no different plans for it. you are able to desire to act NOW in the previous this occurs, dropping tricks that your place is getting so small, with the abode enterprise and all. Remind her consistently which you haven't any longer have been given any area for something, and you're able to placed off deliberate purchases because you merely have merely no area for it. you should even say you have been thinking of having a new child, yet you and your boyfriend merely have not got the gap to stay and paintings and carry a new child in the style of small area, optimistically, she would be in a position to the two take the hint, or start to formlate a distinctive backup plan. good success!
2016-09-30 11:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two love each other...what dif does it make? Your going to have your own biological child and I know for many people they will say biological or not its the same....its NOT!! You have a biological connection to your own child and although you whole-heartedly love the children she had when she met you...its still not the same as your own. Enjoy and congrats!
2006-09-08 00:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can i put this nicely? Uhhh, well she is not a very nice woman at all... I think she needs a good smack up the side of the head... I would kill to have someone who would love me and my kids unconditional... Tell her if she don't to have children with you i'll be more than happy to take her place...
2006-09-08 01:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three children by 3 different men. Wow you have a pieace of work on your hands.
2006-09-08 01:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was really worried you would leave her like her previous boyfriend had done. You need to talk to her and tell her how hurt you are by what she said to you. I am sure you guys can work this all out.
2006-09-08 00:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what she said she probably didn't mean it, just talk to her, and say you feel confused and what she sayd really surprised you and you guys 've been long enough together so don't worry...and she is going trough hormonal changes in her body so she might have moods up and down...
2006-09-08 01:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont see what your problems is. Pregnant women utter all kinds of nonsense.
2006-09-08 00:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋