Everybody - Would you rather have a baby or a career?

Question

This question is not just directed towards women.

Answer 1

Career hands down, I don't want children at all, but Sun M, why do you ask this type of question, when you know very well that "career" is the wrong answer? Lots of people slate me for this, but it's my decision that I don't want kids, it's my life, I don't tell other people how to live their lives. Plus, somebody has to work so that those with kids can receive their benefits.

Have you noticed that some sad person gave all the people who answered "career" or "both" bad rating? Why? Is not having kids a crime???

Answer 2

Baby; definately. But then I'm one of those 'idiots' who was not in a position to have a baby in my younger days, in my 20's I was very career minded and in my 30's I couldn't find Mr Right (well until I was 39 I didn't anyway) I then started trying at the age of 40, but suffered 2 miscarriages, and now at 42 can't seem to get pregnant since my last miscarrriage 10 months ago. Of course its nice to have both if you can, as long as neither suffers, but it can be a difficult juggling game for women. Men of course seem able to have both easily but I guess that's because the wife/female partner supports them - it's less likely to happen the other way around, though of course some men do support their career women when she has a baby (I mean in all ways and not just financially.

Answer 3

If we had lots of money then I would choose a baby. My job isn't anything that great, but I need the money. But I think it would be awesome to be a stay at home mom as long as you have money, so you can do stuff instead of just hanging around the house every day. To the people that say both, it's impossible to do both without missing out on lots of stuff with your kids. You think you have both, but putting your kid in daycare does no count. I'm not trying to be mean, I know most moms have to work, and I'm sure I will have to work, too.

Answer 4

I'd rather have a baby, but I've always done both.
If I had to have a great career without my babies,
I think that would be simply awful! I could have
my babies without work, though. My husband's
okay with that, but I still make that money, yeah!

Answer 5

Baby - carrers come and go and can never give you the satisfaction you recieve when you watch your child grow and prosper into the human being you wish you had been! Nothing can top the feeling of seeing your childs first step, smile or hearing their laugh even their cry. The best thing in the world is when they call for you and reach out for you and you alone because you are their whole world. There is no career in the world that can give you that satisfaction.

Answer 6

I am a mother of 3. That is my career. I enjoy being envolved in every aspect of my children's lives. I am there to get them off to shcool, read to them, help them with their homework, play with them, go to shcool functions, take them to their extra activities (soccer,ballet,girlscouts, basketball, baseball), family vacations, and the list goes on and on. Being a Mom is the best career in the world. Full time job that never stops.

Answer 7

I have both, but I must say I feel that I missed out on the early days of my sons lives. Of course now they are grown men, it is good to be working and have a career.

Answer 8

Women should have both. Having a househusband so you can become more successful in your career is the best way to do it!

Answer 9

You could do both, however, that may mean compromising on quality time with the child or loosing out on advancements at work. I would suggest have a think as to what would be more important to you and work from there
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Answer 10

I'd like to have both, but having two children I realize that it's patently unfair to my children to put my wants and needs before them. So I stay at home and raise them (I found a part-time nanny job that allows me to take my youngest, and my oldest is now in pre-school). It's not a decision I regret for even a moment. I hear women who have both moan and whine about how their nanny called and the baby took his first steps with her, not them - and then they go on to tell me about the brand new plasma screen big t.v. they bought - yeah. OK. I know some women *have* to work - but women who just *want* to work because they're "unfulfilled" by "just" being a mommy? Their children figure that out. They really do.

Children aren't something to be fit into a schedule. They want and need a parent to put them first. Kids grow up fast, and before you know it they're in school full time. You never get those first years back - those baby, formative years.