me and my boyfriend has had a longdistance relationship for 4 and a half years. i really love him. but we are always arguing.last week we got in an arguement because i saw a girl writing him messages on his myspace page. from what she wrote it didnt seem like they were just friends. so i questioned him about it and he got so mad. and we stopped talking for a couple of days. then when he finally did call me he told me that since he cant talk to me, he talks to other girls.i try to talk to him but he never seem like he wants to talk. what should i do?
2006-09-07 23:11:56 · 16 answers · asked by kelli c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
4 and a half years online relationship???? wow such a wasted years with a moron just get over it and find someone REAL lolol
2006-09-07 23:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships always take a toll, even with the closest of relationships.
It does sound as though there is a deep disconnection going on between the two of you.
Your best bet would be to have an honest and open discussion him, with your emotions in check. Try to have it in a public place, say a restaurant, where the both of you will be able to discuss everything in a somewhat civilised manner. Yes, I am suggesting that you make an extra effort to meet up with him face to face. If he's no longer interested in you, you'd be able to see it in face, and face up to reality. Women like to delude themselves into wanting to beleive a relationship that is beyond repair can be saved. By facing him, you will get the closure you need and move on.
Accept the fact that he may no longer be the one for you. Move on. You will find that time heals all wounds and when that better man comes along, the one who cannot bear to spend a day apart from you, the one who calls you 3 times a day just to hear your voice, the one who makes you feel beautiful inside and out, then you will ask yourself " why was I such an *** to spend 4 and half years with that other deadbeat?"
2006-09-07 23:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum long distance relationships do no longer artwork and right this is why. the gap certainly decreases time spent jointly, which will develop social time with others. besides the fact that all of us start up off swearing up & right down to be straightforward, melancholy approximately constantly being on my own at social applications (at the same time as your acquaintances are hooking up) steadily gadgets in. Then some thing happens, like a splash flirting or making out that feels sturdy yet you be attentive to is incorrect because of the fact which you instructed your long-distance companion you will possibly by no skill do it. then you certainly become bored with the nightly phonecalls/texts/webcams, extraordinarily because of the fact which you met this fairly cool individual you basically made out with,...then each thing falls aside. So, why attempt to do it in the 1st place? Miles by no skill get shorter, holiday by no skill gets greater fee effective and technologies is amazingly chilly, extraordinarily once you like that hug maximum suitable away.
2016-10-14 11:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard for me to believe that you wasted 4 1/2 years on this meaningless long distance relationship, sweetie!!! What in the world is wrong with you??? Why would anyone want to be in a relationship when all you are is "penpals" and then you tell me you argue all the time??? Well, Myspace tells a lot.......you and he a very immature. Take a look at your life and decide what you really want. Dump this "relationship" and start interacting with live people.......ddon't look back on all this with wasted regret!
2006-09-07 23:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in my 4 and half year or LDR too. It's hard, but just move on. Stop wasting any more time for jerks that is not worth it. You might think that you want to savour this relationship since so much time and effort have been spent on it... but it's not worth it. So, just move on.. Why should you take all this nonsense when he don't care anymore?
When and if he finally get back his senses, you would be happier and moved on and it would be too late for him. Don't waste time trying to knock some sense into his head, he will only reject it. Love yourself!
2006-09-07 23:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by shuddupfirst 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like the Little boy is tiring to have his cake and eat it 2, Girlfriend You caught him on line with Girl Instead of his woman!!! And the girl is writing Notes that they are more then friends, Time to go, Time for you to get a better dip "stick" then that dude was going out with. If the cat is away the mice will play, Hi mice!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 23:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never confront them unless you have solid proof or catch them, or you will look like the paranoid one. A lot of people say those kinds of relationships don't work. I see some work and some don't. I have a relative who moved to another state to marry his long term relationship. I hate to use a cliche on you, but if it is meant to be it Will work out. But if you love eachother and but you don't have trust, it can't last. Love and trust go hand and hand.
2006-09-07 23:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what ya mean...i sware myspace should have never been made! because it cuases to much problems!...im sorry to here your situation...well the next time you do talk to him tell him how you feel tell him that you love him and no one else and see if you guys can make plans to visit one another thats always soething fun and all to look forward to:)..and when you guys do see eachother when ever ..you guys decide to visit one another try making a move after talking for a bit and see what goes from there:) well GOOD LUCK! ...i hope i helped:)
2006-09-07 23:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be confused. I guess you should break up wid him . Long distances never work out. If you can't break up you must have this private conversation and makes some vows and clear the way of doubts.Truth is the solution to all problems, remember that.
2006-09-07 23:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Girl with a pearl earing! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four and a half years is a long time. He will want to chat to others too. You are obviously unsure of him. Get a boyfriend you can spend time with and make the best of it.
2006-09-07 23:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know..i think he loves you but cant seem to control the urge to flirt with other women...Men! I think you know what you should do. But the truth is, you dont want to right? There's a feeling a guilt and selflessness because of how long you've been together. :) think this through
2006-09-07 23:16:07 · answer #11 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋