Mom is Having an affair with somebody what should i do?

Question

My dad is in USA & last few months i find her talking & romming with one person

Answer 1

Talk to your mom, and tell her your concerns. I'm sure she can clarify everything.

Answer 2

Confront your mother first of all! In fact before you even confront your mother try and snoop around and see if you can get proof that an affair is taking place. She might just be longing for companionship in the abscence of your father. But try and get prrof first, if you get proof then confront your mother with your concerns. Not before. If she isnt having an affair and you accuse her without proof she will be very upset. Now if you get proof, you confront your mother with your concerns and ask he about it, do not come out and accuse her, she will become defensive and you will get no where. As for the step after that, if you find out she is having an affair, u have to decide what is best: your father finding out or your father just not knowing about it. This is a dangerous and difficult situation that you find yourself in. You are playing with fire on both sides of the problem and if your not careful you and everyone involved will get burned.

Answer 3

Person? Do you mean guy? If so, more than likely your instincts are correct, but...your mother's talking and romming with someone could be innocent to the extent of just friendship. You havn't stepped in on her with the other man, right? She could be just needing companionship. People in relationships do become lonely when their partner is not around; its painfully loney sometimes. This doesn't reason infidelity, mind you, but you shouldn't cause a rift between your parents if there is nothing to stand with. You have every right to CALMLY confront your mother about the situation. View her response. All you need to do is to ask-and ask unexpectedly-out of the blue-"So, mom...whats up with you and _____?" If she is having a relationship with this other person, she more than likely will become defensive and bite your head off. (Sometimes not, but if you look her in the eye during her response to you-you should be able to tell if she is or not) If she is willing to talk about it calmly, more than likely its just a friendship. If she is willing to talk to you about it (either if she is calm, or you have to interject between her defensive remarks), you could continue and ask her if she thinks that hanging around this person is really such a good idea in all fairness to your father. Keep it simple-keep it light-but be to the point.

I personally would not be directly receptive to this person, if this person hangs around. Standing there, staring at them, with a serious face-not having much to say, is formidible. MAYBE that would get the point across that the guy should step off. You could also ask this person directly, and out of the blue..."So...what are your intensions with my mother?" Look at your watch, and then state..."Oh, ## look at the time, I have to call my dad! Laters!"

I know that it could become more involved than this. If both people want things to happen between them, more than likely it will. But, acting as a deturant and reminding people that there are others around them that could be effected by the situation doesnt do any harm.

Good luck. I hope it is nothing to worry about.

Answer 4

you need to tell your dad, because if you don't and he finds out you knew all along, you will loose him, and feel guilty for the rest of your life. As far as your mom goes, she has no right to be upset with you, because she was the one that was having the affair. If she can do that, she knows the consequences of getting caught, and obviously one of those consequenes is making you decide who you want to live with, your mom (whom caused the split up in the first place) or your dad, who did nothing. confront your mom first, and tell her that you know, and that either she has 2 options, 1) stop, tell your dad and be faithful to your dad from then on (let them work it out from there) or 2) continue, and you will tell him because he doesn't deserve to be having his wife cheating on him.
(im sure you would want to know if your husband ever cheated on you when you grow up and are married right?, even if it does come from your child(ren))

good luck

Answer 5

u better do sumtin!

u shud inform ur dad abt this, or just go to the person n have a tlk wit him not abt the affair but ask him a few questions abt his personal life! when u *** to no abt him ask his family or friends abt him 2 get 2 no more abt him!

then u will *** 2 no whether there is really sumtin between them!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

sit with your mother, discuss on this and know everything, then think for some time, and tell your mother, what you feel proper or bad about of her behaviour, try not to take this matter to your father, the relationship may break, and you may be shared by both,
see that the things are not becoming worse ad get them into your control

Answer 8

What if it is friend she has made to keep her company when your Dad is not around - I mean in a pure platonic way. Talk to her-lack of communication causes lot of problems

Answer 9

Well, if you know where they meet up coffee shop etc..you could make sure your father shows up around the same area.. That way you will not have to tell him yourself..he can see for himself.

Answer 10

what does this question has to do with the TTC here?
Anyway, you should talk to your Mom and let her know what you think and feel about her behaviour while your Dad is away.
You could be wrong to what you see.