I would like some opinions on relationships across different cultures.
Do you think they can work out, or do people have different expectations because of how they've been brought up?
Thanx for your thoughts!
2006-09-07 22:48:30 · 14 answers · asked by kway_tzar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I want to be honest with you, this kind of relationship can be VERY difficult. Mainly because you may each be getting on each others nerves without even knowing it. You have to recognise that different things are accepted in different cultures so communication becomes more important in this relationship than in your average one. If something is going wrong, it must be addressed and dealt with or else it can never be resolved.
Understanding and tolerance become much more important in this kind of relationship also. Both parties have to try to understand the cultural differences between themselves and their partner and make a conscious attempt to tolerate it.
As I said earlier, this kind of relationship is very difficult (mainly because it requires so much more effort), but not impossible.
2006-09-07 23:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a white guy, upper middle class from Oklahoma, My wife is from Vietnam, different cultures but we have the same values. Eight years later I rush home after work because I cannot stand to be away from her. Business trips are impossible, if I am gone for more than a day, I bring her with me, it is that great. I think we were brought up on the same values, both of our parents had ALMOST as good as marriage as we do. I have been married twice before yet I know how lucky I am.
2006-09-07 22:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of different cultures you Will always have different expectations. To make a relationship work it needs a common ground something you both share an interest in then all the other things should fall into place. but it needs to be something solid that will last.
2006-09-07 22:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can work but trust me they take a whole lotta work.. I am a born and breed Buddhist Brit divorced and a single mother who has a 41 year old Muslim Bangladeshi bf who i have been with for 3 years... the chances of it becoming anything more are remote but its been good while its lasted!.. if he was to ever marry he would probably want a wife who can do all the wifely things!..cooking and stuff and no matter how much i try i will never master the art of curry making!
2006-09-08 02:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a caucasian/american Christian (not practicing as much as i should be), and am married to a south Indian Hindu man.
We were married in America and we got along great. He was very much having an American mind in a lot of ways. There weren't double standards, he's not conrolling, will do anything for me i ask for, and spends quality time with me even now (after 4 years of marriage).
Now we live in India and with his mother and brother to make matters more complicated. Moved here to help his family since his father's death.
Needless to say it is more difficult, the life in India and you once married to a person from another culture you must be prepared to make sacrifices in your life in the future (like possibly leaving your home country). He takes me to church here and I go to the temples with him. We understand each other is different and accept it as such.
When looking for a mate in life it is best to look at the personality and individual rather than to assume because they are from another culture, they are like aliens from mars. We are all human and should be judged only once you get to know them in person.
2006-09-07 22:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I work with a female Samoan who was married to a black man. They also have two beautiful children. Some of my family is racist and I even have second cousins who are mixed. But I think it is totally up to you if it can work out. I don't think is should matter how you've been brought up. Color should not matter. I'd date a woman if she was black, white, yellow or red. Morgan Freeman said when he plays a character in a film, he doesn't play a black man or a white man...he plays the character.
2006-09-07 23:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Opposite s attract, can be a beautiful romantic thing, I'm black carribean born in London and i have always wanted to settle down with a fantastic Slender Spanish girl with gorgeous long Black hair... I'm not planning anything aint even been, but i love the accent. the language the culture is amazing the food, the womanlyness... way gorgeous.. ya never know.
i'm a christian though and i think they are all Catholic... Ouch.
May have to stay celebate then... God will ix it i he thinks its cool.
2006-09-07 23:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by HOPE 4 THE FUTURE: 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no relationships from different cultures are great, you learn and see sthings form a slightly different angle everyones human so you will always have things in common from life experience, I love learning and participating in things I would otherwise not know about.
2006-09-07 22:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course they can - you just both need to comprimise and not expect to get to live life your own way. But that's what being in a relationship is all about
2006-09-07 22:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Big Hands 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatley, i had a fantastic relationship with a girl from Spain, we would have such great discussions and debates, it was deep and very meaningful she was so different from any girl i have met in the uk, i miss her....
2006-09-07 23:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋