We married 2 years ago monday, he is 12 yrs older. After 13 months I find out about his DARK secret. Meth. He is almost 50 so would have thought? Just last week I hacked into his email and OMG!!!! I wished Id had never went there. LIES upon LIES day after day.Tomorrow I am pressing charges on him for sexual assault, I said NO twice and well didnt matter..Out of 171 days he's been gone 98 out of 98 days 18 times he thought it was ok to go out all weekend and whore around, where, how, who etc..That was the last time EVER..Also I have spent EVERY holiday alone, all of them since sept.05.Including our Anniv. sept 4th..Ive had PLENTY of me time. So the question is do I proceed with the charges? He was cheating 20 days after we married. Thats what I have found so far..Called me every name in the book sat night and smelt so bad (drinking) and thought it was ok after I said NO twice?
2006-09-07 22:32:22 · 13 answers · asked by ~MiNdI~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get out now, and seek help. I know you hve strong feelings or at one time was very inlove...but this situation when the love and respect that you give isn't being returned, then press charges......but when you do, don't look back.
2006-09-07 22:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by zeena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it's a good thing you found out. I don't care what you hacked into.
Lady listen and listen good. You are in mortal danger. You need to get the hell out!! Right now and fast! Meth and booze! This maniac is a time bomb soon to explode and he will kill you. If you want to stay alive run like there is no tomorrow because you ain't going to live to see one. Run like your life depends on it CAUSE IT DOES. Go to a shelter or a friend or family anywhere. Just go! And stay away from him. Have him locked up now if you can.
Not only do you press charges but you get a restraining order and get a divorce.
2006-09-08 06:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have every excuse in the world to leave and not one to stay!!SO if i was you get out while you can before its too late.Dont waste another minute on this looser.HE is a drug addict and he will not be able to be trusted at all,he will cheat ,lie and steal from anyone and anything.He needs help and until he gets it nothing is going to change its only going to get worse.Im sorry your goiong thru this but leave its your best bet!He doesnt love you my god he doesnt even love himself.If he is willing to get help like rehab then let him go and tell him you will wait till he is out and see he is sober but if he isnt willing to do a thing then tell him bye or just leave if your afraid of him.Lifes to short my dear and you deserve better addiction is a powerful sin and its hard to shake it may require him to loose everything before he wakes up and sees and sometimes that doesnt even work ,some dont even realize even on deaths door,so you cant change him and you cant make him better,he has this battle and he has to fight him himself if he wants to get better.Like i said get out before he gives you something you cant rid of like a std,or he causes you to loose everything in your life.Cause some people that go down try and take everyone and everything around them with them.Good luck and best of luck!
2006-09-08 05:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy sounds like a real creep. Pull out the stops and throw every book and paragraph(charges) you can find at him. Why did you put up with this so long?There's got to be someone out there who will care about YOU.
2006-09-08 05:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Protect yourself and get out. Addictive personalities need not be enabled for them to seek help.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-08 08:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bloody Blimey!!!
I say continue with the charges and ditch him out of your life! Are you in the UK or in the US? I deal with Rape and Sexual Assault so if you need any advice, please feel free to email me.
Good Luck!
2006-09-08 05:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Charley G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and lay the charges. You should have left long ago.
2006-09-08 07:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by robsnor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ALL I CAN SAY IS ITS HARD WHEN YOUR MARRIED AND HAVE AN ADDICTION....I HAVE ONE, MY HUSBAND MARRIED ME KNOWING ABOUT IT......WHEN I RELAPSE AND HE COMES HOME, HE'S JUST GLAD I'M HOME,,WHEN I SPEND MONEY WE DONT REALLY HAVE AND HE GIVES ME THE MONEY TO PAY MY DEALER, HE'S MAD, BUT HE LOVES ME AND KEEPS FORGIVING ME.........I DONT MEAN TO DISAPPOINT HIM,,ITS NOT ON PURPOSE, ITS THE ADDICTION...I'M DOING GOOD THIS WEEK AND HES RELIEVED....IF YOU LOVE HIM, LIKE HE LOVES ME- STICK WITH HIM.......IF HE DOESNT LOVE YOU AND YOU CAN TELL, CAUSE YOU CAN TELL, THEN LEAVE HIM,,DRUGS ONLY BRING THE HOME AND FINANCES DOWN,,I KNOW...AS FOR HIM NOT UNDERSTANDING "NO" GO AHEAD AND PRESS THOSE CHARGES,,YOU WANT DOCUMENTATION IN CASE ANYTHING EVER HAPPENS,,DONT PUT UP WITH THAT,,,I HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM , BUT I DONT BEAT UP ON MY SPOUSE.........IF YOU DONT LOVE HIM- LEAVE HIM,,BETTER YET THROW HIM OUT,,,IF YOU STILL LOVE HIM-PRAY FOR HIM LIKE MY HUSBAND DOES FOR ME...CAUSE IT DOES WORK..............TAKE CARE................
2006-09-08 05:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wonder how much did you knew him before marrying him.
2006-09-08 05:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then your an idiot for being with him tis long.
2006-09-08 05:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋