when something bad happens and you try everything to feel better?

Question

and as much u think about it u find that there is no issue that could make u feel better.u had lost this war. it may affect all your life.no one can help u. U pray and hope for miracles...what else?

Answer 1

1. Accept full responsibility for the emotion. Even if you don't fully believe it right now, tell yourself, "I Create My Reality, and I am Creating this Emotion Right Now". Usually, people never get beyond step one because they actually believe that outer circumstances are causing their emotions.

2. Name the emotion. Giving the emotion a name increases your clarity, awareness, and consciousness. Don't just say you feel sad or bad or mad. Expand your emotional knowledge until you can positively identify the feelings of violation, disappointment, anxiety, shame, embarrassment, and many more.

3. Let go of the story. The story is whatever it is outside yourself that you think caused the emotion. Literally "see" the story being cut off from your emotion and fading away. Let go of the story but keep the emotion that you created and which now has a name.

4. Bless the emotion. Blessing the emotion means not judging it as good or bad. Accept the emotion in a spirit of gratitude and learning. This is necessary in order to do the next step properly.

5. Feel the emotion. With no judging or resistance, simply feel the emotion. Notice where you feel the emotion physically in your body. Raise your consciousness as you become a "witness", a kind of observer of your own processes. What you resist persists, and allowing the emotion in this way is the very opposite of resistance.

6. Ask for clarity. In a spirit of learning and willingness to grow, ask for insight as to the reason for the emotion. Don't go back to the story. The "cause" of the emotion is you, and nothing outside yourself. Ask "What do I need to learn from this emotion." Also ask "What ineffective belief do I own that created this emotion."

7. Identify the belief. Create a space for the answer to come, and it will come. At the root of nearly every painful emotion is an ineffective belief. You may believe that you must make everyone happy. You may believe you can't be loved if you are not perfect. You may believe that you are simply not worth it.

8. Replace the belief. Once you have identified the belief, choose to replace it with a more effective belief. Literally say to yourself, "I now choose to reject this (ineffective belief) and adopt this (empowering belief) in its place".

Summary - You will find that during the last four steps of the process, something magical has happened! The painful emotion is gone, completely transformed into something else. The reason for this magic is the clarity and increase in consciousness.

Normally, people resist their painful emotions with intense energy, which only keeps them festering and in pain for hours. By allowing yourself to feel in a spirit of openness and acceptance, you can learn your lessons quickly.

A fantastic side benefit is that you now have a powerful new belief in place! You can grow more in a few weeks than you have in the past years by practicing this process diligently.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

You are looking for answers in all the wrong places!

It may be that you need medication, that you brain has what should be called an infection, but we are always reluctant to use that word. Chemical imbalance sounds so much important doesn't it.

For a bit of simple self help therapy,make yourself laugh for 15 minutes a day. It doesn't have to be true heartfelt or even mildly truthful laughter to have an effect.

Our minds are wonderful, but sometimes we can fool them and forcing laughter on them works that way.

The simple exercise of the muscles releases chemicals that tell the thinking brain that life is not all bad.

And listen if you need and ear that doesn't retain too deeply, or judge too easily to talk into, I am here at the other end of my Yahoo Answers address.

Never think that you are the only one in the world with just one too many mountains to climb. Most of us walk that path at some time or other in our lives.
I remember with wonderful clarity the moment when I realized that I could go round the dam things.

Take care, be strong.
There are people out here who care about your and your future. And don't forget to try laughing! And email me of you have a mind to.


and that the next day was worth living.

Answer 3

I just went throuh a situation like that last weekend, the people that I love and trusted betrayed me, i appoligised as if I was wrong, but I did it because of the respect that I have for them, and on Sunday I've decided that I will take care of my happiness and what Dod wants from me. Some situations can't be chnaged, and God's miricale is ussually not the one that we hope for, coz I hope for something else, but the miricle I got was that God opened my eyes and I look at things from a another angle, keep the faith up and wait for His, coz the miricle is always greater than the pain that we go throuh.

Answer 4

Accept it and try something else except rethinking of the catastrophe. All is lost in war. The victor is even a loser. What is universally lost is pride but not the honor in defeat or victory.

Answer 5

Don't hope for a miracle - EXPECT a miracle. You sound like your very troubled about something. Are you talking to somebody about all this?

Answer 6

there is ALWAYS a solution... you know how life moves on???sometimes we can see things and sometimes not...but it's always happening...it's in the making...thoughts are very strong and have power..so think about what it is you want be positive and don't lose your focus...

Answer 7

They call it "bucking up" or "get a life" it is all Individual + is taken care of in ways.

Answer 8

everything goes better but we feel bad