Hi there,
I always spend at least 1 hour when making love with my wife. I will like to pull out and rest a min or 2, and continue again before edjaculation. And sometime i feel like giving her a slap on her face or butt, but so far i did not.
Am i abnormal? I have told my wife about my hidden feeling, and she ask me to go ahead and try it on her. I dont dare as i thinkthat is beyond the making love criteria.
Can someone please help.
2006-09-07 21:58:28 · 12 answers · asked by Wake up 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You're not abnormal. Given, some guys can't last longer than it takes to boil water but an hour is a good amount of time. As for slapping your wife; if she's okay with it and you're not causing any damage, go for it. You're married, I'm sure you trust each other enough to divulge your true feelings. If you don't, than you got some issues to work on. Just be truthful. If I don't tell my girlfriend what's on my mind, I'll get "blue balls".
2006-09-07 22:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by PAIN23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
1) It is not abnormal to have sex for an hour. In fact, I am sure your woman is very happy that you can last for so long! Many women would complain that they don't get to be fully satisfied by their male partner, simply due to the fact that alot of males do not last very long.
2) It is also possible that you have trouble "letting yourself go" which would explain why you would think you have trouble to reach orgasm. However since you are able to ejaculate, this is probably not the situation at all. But some men actually have troule to climax with a partner, often resulting in prolonged sessions. But like I said, this is probably not your case.
3) Slapping: Well, my opinion on this is that slapping a woman on the butt during sex is perfectly normal (my wife actually adores it and wants me to do it more, whereas I am only beginning to find pleasure in it). But wanting to slap her in the face is something else. I think it could be interpreted as a passive form of power over the woman, but that's just my own view on it. I know the guys in the p*rn films will do that, but I have never understood why nor do I enjoy it. I myself don't think I could bring myself to slapping a woman on the face, even if she asked me. So my final thought on this is slap her on the butt, but the face is another story altogether.
4) More slapping: Yeah I just wanted to put a final afterthought on the whole idea of slapping during sex. Of course slapping will up a notch towards hardcore sex rather than the standard "sweet" "soft" "making love" style. But that doesn't mean some women don't enjoy it. As a matter of fact, I know of at least three women who actually dig it far more than I thought it possible. These 3 women have all told me in all honestly that a good slap (but not too hard) on the butt is a good turn on, and often intensifies the sex. So don't be shy about that one; your woman will let you know if it's not for her or if you're doing it wrong.
But again, I would look into the "wanting to slap her in the face" thing, as FOR ME, it sounds unhealthy. But then again, it could all just be the sex play.
Cheers!
2006-09-08 12:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not abnormal, not the usual either. The wanting to slap is also normal. Not on the face though. Some do like to be slapped on the but when they are on the high. If she said try it then do so but NOT the FACE.
2006-09-08 05:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very normal, some people take much more longer than you. Myself, take about 1.5 hours with my loved ones only, strictly no others. Can try anythings you want since your wife is so good to give you the go ahead, why you not dare ? Keep going, only with your wife only. Don't take risk ! and don't do it with others. Take care !
2006-09-08 07:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are abnormal....a desire to slap your wife's butt or face while 'making love' isn't making love at all. That's just sex. Your sexual desires aren't positive and I presume they are influenced by pornographic content.
Some men tend to close their eyes and picture something erotic in their minds before they ejaculate. And if a man takes a longer while to ejaculate, he presses on with erotic thoughts that may get a little too warped eventually. Perhaps, if you worry about delayed ejaculation, seek medical advice.
Perhaps, you might also want to engage in more foreplay and make your wife feel loved.
2006-09-08 06:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either do it and get it out of your system or don't and always have the want to do it, the choice is yours. I f you choose to, then slap easy don't pound her butt or her face like she's done something wrong, just enough to make a tiny sting.
2006-09-08 05:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by GTO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyf used to get on with it for an hour as well when we had lots of time or when either one of us was going away. That way we would both be satisfied for a while, and we would feel great. There are no guidelines to making love so as long as you and your partner agree, go for it
2006-09-08 05:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ravishing Rue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abnormal, nope. you boud be surprised the things that people want to try in that area. If she's wiiling to try no reason not to, it you're both sure you never know wher it could lead
And as for the time...it's not abnormal...it's about average
2006-09-08 05:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by kveldulfgondlir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is good thing but what about the pleasure its the important.
thank god for this many people try to reach 15 M.
2006-09-08 05:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by mabdelgaid2@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre not abnormal
as long as yu and your wife is happy doing it
2006-09-08 05:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by ssc_sp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋