Re - My Double Standards Question?

Question

I apologise, it shoud have read 'some men'. To all the insulted of you - I am sincerely sorry!

In response to some of your answers, I am not allowed to go out with him and the 'lads' at the weekends because - and I quote 'his friends are his friends and why would I want anything to do with them?'. He wants to go out and do his own thing, blah blah blah.

But, we are allowed to share my friends apparently and he sometimes comes out with me and my friends (because I have some male pals who I went to school with) and I get had a go at when I go out and do my own thing. More of those pesky double standards!!!

Answer 1

As I said in my other answer, I think this *could* be a case of peer group pressure from his friends. Not all men are this stupid when in large groups and full of drink, but sadly more often than not they are kind of stupid under those circumstances. This doesn't free him of responsibility for behaving childishly though, when it comes down to it your opinion of your relationship should be more important to him than the opinion of his friends, because they have nothing to do with what goes on between you two.

I hope you sort this out, good luck with it

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Answer 2

I hate double standards aswell. Don't know how to resolve that one for you. As to the question about him wanting to go out with his pals and your not invited, that's a normal thing for guys, please dont think that its because he's up to anything. MOst guys act slightly differently when they are around their friends and they feel that their girlfriends would not like this so they dont get invited lol. Like i said, every person is different so there are different ways to sort stuff out, just make sure you dont put up with the double standards princess

Answer 3

I still think your boyfriend is a bit of a louse. It sounds like he doesn't want to talking to his friends - why? What do they know about him that he doesn't want you finding out? Or is he afraid that they will show him up in a bad light in some way?

If a man doesn't want to allow you insight into all parts of his life, he's hiding something. The fact that you going out without him is a problem is indicative of a guilty conscience on his part. It's alright for him to have something to hide, but not you. I think you should ditch him, to be honest.

Answer 4

I wasn't really insulted ;) but thanks for the apology, it's of course accepted :)