Iv been with him 4 3yrs and im so down about it all i dont know what to do any more I think it is over for good but i dont want it to be!!Iv tried emailin him txtin him callin him...nothing.And Iv tried not callling him, no contact so I just don't know what to do anymore!!!
2006-09-07 21:06:08 · 25 answers · asked by 2006hunni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It will take time. Have some time on your own. If you've got any stuff around that reminds you of him, put it in a box and put it away somewhere that you won't see it all the time (don't throw it away, you'll reqret it!).
Gather your friends around you to support you, go out with them (even if it's just for a couple of hours every now and then) and try not to think about him and enjoy your time with them. Try and busy yourself so you don't keep thinking about him.
Don't contact him - he might contact you at some point in the future and if he does, don't just go running back to him. He's not treating you well if he's not responding to your contact. Maybe he just needs time on his own, but if he does decide he wants to be with you - you need to talk to him and find out why he was ignoring you because that is not fair.
In time, if he doesn't want to be with you and after you have had some time to recover - you will find someone who makes you happier. Don't compare them to your ex - they are a brand new person for you to discover and love.
2006-09-07 21:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've been so concentrated with one person over a very long period of time; it is not possible to `get over it' in a minute!
It will take time, time to get used to the changes; because there are a lot of changes that you will be going through. Try and focus on some really exciting new challenge: if you don't have one; then create one: it will really help you to get a new `center' of attention; and make it easier for you to `move on'.
I am really wishing you, the very best, and take care you just need some new focus to center your self on!
2006-09-08 04:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel.
However, do not feel depressed because of him. You are hurting yourself by not letting go.
At times we must accept the facts and learn to let go of the past, however painful. Life must on, especially for you. Do not let one person from the past rule your life.
Go on and start the next chapter of your life. Use the break-up as a lesson for you to improve your future relationships. This will be a positive move for you if you take it. Then your life will not be miserable! The choice is yours, and only you hold your destiny in your hands.
2006-09-08 04:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make someone love you and if they stay with you out of pity then resentment will set in eventually! Try to think what life was before and the things you enjoy, pamper yourself. Life is too short to hold out for what you cant have so enjoy now and you never know whats around the next corner; when one door closes another is bound to open!
2006-09-08 08:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the hardest things to do, but TRUST ME, it will help you SOOO MUCH in the long run...
Take every picture, every letter, every stuffed animal, movie tickets, ANYTHING you have lying around that reminds you of this person (even if you really really like certain pictures of the two of you), and put it all in a box. Tape that sucker up like there's no tomorrow, and when you're ready, THROW IT AWAY.
I've been in your exact position before, and I'm telling you, I wasted months and months of my life pining over this guy. Once I got everything out of sight (and therefor out of mind), it was much easier to move on. It was almost like that final step, as if to say, "I'm just letting it go".
Remember...any pictures online (or on your computer), emails, text msgs on your phone (even his phone number!)...DELETE them.
I wish you the best of luck, and I am soo sorry you have to go through this *hugs*
2006-09-08 04:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by prayinfroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation myself at the moment and am absolutely devastated and heart broken. I am trying everything people suggest to take the pain away and make things a bit easier. Everyone keeps telling me its ok and i'll be alright etc... ut thats easy for them to say because they aren't the ones feeling like this. I am just trying to keep myself busy & trying to spend as much time as i can with my friends, that seems to be working for me. If you wanna email: foxylady12002002@yahoo.co.uk.
2006-09-08 08:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Foxy~Lady! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,just accept the fact that you are meant to be together and move on with life the way he has moved on.....you cant force someone to love you and be with you,right then why are you making your life miserable....start living for yourself,take up a sport that'll help you build your self confidence and and make you feel optimistic,its not the end of the world...make new friends and m sure you'll find someone apt for you who would love you and respect you equally!!good luck!!
2006-09-08 04:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no good way to do this unless you are really strong. I suggest avoiding alcohol quite a lot as this tends to make matters worse. You need to talk about it with someone who wont judge either of you, and thats quite hard to do aswell. Good luck with it princess
2006-09-08 04:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by atuniagain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get busy and stay busy. Work longer hours, do an evening class, take up another hobby ... anything to get you out there and meeting other people. If nothing else, it will take your mind off this painful situation. Good luck with it!
2006-09-08 04:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over a relationship is hard,but you can move on.If he's not returning your calls,forget him!!. Do some alone time to get your life back in order.Then find someone else,Life is to short to waste your time on trying to get something back thats not meant to be
2006-09-08 04:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by dragonflypenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋