My husband is leaving for a few day's to go to his grandpa's funeral, I can't go because of kids school and work and plan out can't afford it. This is the first since we been together ( 6 years) that we have been apart. Is it normal to feel like everything is going to fall apart when he is gone? Like my whole world is going to flip upside down?
2006-09-07 20:29:59 · 18 answers · asked by medevilqueen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Speaking as an army wife, I could say, suck it up, there are people like me who had babies while their husbands were in other countries.
Yeah, and I had to walk to school uphill both ways in the snow, sleet and hail!
(Sorry, a sense of humor is hard to convey in writing.)
In my opinion, it is completely normal for you to feel this way. It is hardest when you have never been away from someone you love. Sadly, it gets easier, but you don't necessarily want that to happen! He is doing the right thing by going, and you have to do the right thing by staying, and holding down the fort, so to speak.
Here are the two best pieces of advice I have received on this subject:
1. Never let yourself or your children feel sorry for yourselves when "Daddy" is gone. You are all vibrant, confident, competent and resourceful. He's gone, he'll be back. Your basement may flood or your dog might eat a poisonous bug while he's gone, but in the end, you'll look back on it and you'll have a funny story to tell at dinner parties.
2. Yes. You're mad, or sad, or anxious, or worried, and a million different words. Yes, it hurts. It's okay to be upset about it, but decide how long you're going to let it last, and then put on your big girl panties and do what you need to do.
Everything will be okay. Remember, it is times of testing that we become stronger!
2006-09-07 20:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you're lucky he's leaving for only a few days. My husband is in the Navy and he was gone for 6 months straight last yr. U're just going to have to get used to it. It's his grandfather's funeral. Just go on with life like u normally do and u will be fine. It's normal to feel this way if it's the first time and u will be okay.
2006-09-08 04:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of the posters are missing the point, but you will be just fine. Have all the emergency phone numbers at hand, know how to shut the water off to the whole house, and get all other things in order that you have a fear of going south at the worst possible time. Stay calm and you'll be OK.
2006-09-08 04:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey it is perfectly normal. My hubby has been deployed overseas for 10 months now. I'de give anything for him to only be gone for a couple of days. Your life will not flip upside down. Just keep doing the day to day things that you always do and he will be home before you know it. lol
2006-09-08 03:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
absence can make the heart grow fonder if you use it constructively. You cant let things get to you. Handle the most important things first then do what you can. When He comes home he will be glad to help you get the whole thing back to gether the way you want it.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-08 08:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is especially normal when you know he is going back where he lost his virginity in first place. But do not worry this is normal and he will probably come back to you in a few years.
2006-09-08 03:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by drkhrse099 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal if you are always with your husband. Look on the bright side.When he comes back you will feel a sense of new feelings when you see him again. sometimes space is good. if it helps. ask him to give you a hand to help out w/ anything you might need done before he leaves. this way you dont feel all alone.
2006-09-08 03:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Yulissa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you just have to think about when he gets back, and you two will rekindle that flame like when you first met, even if for only a short time, you have to remember, absence makes the....you get it. And as far as the juggling the kids and all. You'll make it. You'll all make it. Good Luck.
2006-09-08 03:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by bros.parker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'll be fine. My wife and I have been married almost 10 years and she went on two business trips this year for a few days each. I had to stay behind for reasons like yours, but was fine with it. Just focus on your daily routine. He will come back, ya know!
2006-09-08 03:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is normal. but that you are doing the right thing.
as long as you and your husand love each other and a good man that be there to support then dont have to worry so much about. it is just a temperally thing
2006-09-08 04:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋