Some people including myself and my siblings come from a background of chaos. Some of us grow up and realize the chaos was just the past and rebuild our lives to become more valuable members of society...but some don't. What is your take on this? Should adult children still be able to lay blame on their parents or upbringing? I understand that we can become privy to the chaos but shouldn't we all take control of our situation since we are adults? I am not talking about major abuse but mistakes our parents have made over the years.
2006-09-07 20:18:17 · 5 answers · asked by chrissy757 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that we are the sum of life's experience. We each have the ability to rise above the bad experiences and to do so would only make us stronger. Some people are too lazy to rebuild after trauma, pointing fingers and laying blame is an easy cop-out. I agree with you as adults with the ability to make our own decisions we should be able to take control of any situation past or present.
2006-09-07 20:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Eric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time one reaches 17 and beyond he should be able to realize right from wrong and what responsibility is all about. One of the duties of a parent is above and beyond the chaos is to teach those values to your children. At any rate it is never too late to start. Impress upon them that abuse will not be tolerated and when not in school they have to earn their keep...for a short while at home, then on their on.
2006-09-08 03:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I understand where you are coming from, and yes I do feel that a person should try to overcome their upbringings, but it's not the case all the time. I have tried to overcome mine and in some aspects I have, others I fail horribly. So in some areas of my life I'm really strong, in others, I'm not and I need help. But without that help I would end up repeating the cycle.......
2006-09-08 03:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the things that happened in the past should be left in the past and people should try to get over what has happened to them. there was LOTS of abuse and mistakes when i was growing up. i have only one sister out of 5 of us who went through everything that uses her past as a crutch, but a lot of what she got she had coming what with her using angel dust and being the town freezer (everyone's stuck their meat in her). if you go through life blaming everything on your past and not taking control and making your own future, you really have nobody to blame but yourself.
2006-09-08 03:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bailey J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you can only blame it on your parents as long as you are insecure. or weak minded. my folks split when we were young. mom worked all the time and of the four of us 3 turned our lives around. my youngest sister is now 29 and she blames mom for everything. so bad mom still takes care of her. i tell you what i am 31 and dont have time to ponder it my childrens lives are far to important.
2006-09-08 03:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by q-fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋