Been married for 6 yrs. + 3 yrs courtship.I love him a lot, & have try for the last 2 mth to make him come back to me.He have a new girl friend rite after we sperated & having sex with her.Even though we r sperated, He will still look for me for sex. & i have never turn him down. til 1 day , i told him, i have wake up. ask him not to look for me anymore.
He say he want me to give him sometime to think of our relationship. which mean, will continune with the sex thing... u know. what is he thinking?.. anyone know. does he love me.. (he say he still love me & also his new gf) can i trust him again..
i have a son with him, should i let me 2 timing both of us. i want my family back ..
2006-09-07 19:39:35 · 37 answers · asked by loveuk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but does that he still have feeling for me ??? if not y look for when he have a new girl
2006-09-07 19:44:16 · update #1
this is the first time he have a so call affair. he have behave himself through the 9 yrs
2006-09-07 19:53:18 · update #2
honestly , we enjoy the sex life better than when we r marry ...
2006-09-07 22:56:29 · update #3
The fact unfortunately remains that he has a girlfriend .. if he loved you then he wouldn't be dating someone else. Seek counseling for yourself .. maybe if he wants to continue the relationship with you - he will need to break it off with his gf .. and then seek counseling as well. Regardless be strong, stop sleeping with him and focus on the family you do have - your son and you. Bottom line .. the immediate priorities is your son .. his happiness and well being .. as well as yours.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-07 19:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is having the icing and cake, you and her, whenever he wants, going back and forth, i've been in the same situation as you about five months ago, he would come over, and then go back to his girlfriend, just a repeat, then I stopped it, and decided to move three hours, he came back to me, and we moved together. Always put your child first before a man. No man is worth this, If my husband does this again. I am done with him, and moving on. If you honestly think you can trust him go for it, but i would be careful, my husband has had no contact with this girl since May. You have to let him choice, but dont give him sex so that will help you decide, back off from giving him sex, until he decides, then you will know how to decide from there. Good Luck Hun.
2006-09-07 19:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take my opinion too seriously, I'm iust out of high-school and inexperianced with these things, but it seems to me that if he has loved you for all those years and still loves you, it would way overpower the new girl he hooked up with right away. Sex with you is a perk of being with you, and he should only get it if YOU have descided whether or not YOU want him back and whether YOU think he's being honest. Remember, actions speak louder than words. It sounds like he's playing you to me. And separated and happy, independent parents are better than a couple at war. I know that is what I would rather have and I'm a lot closer to having parents then most people answering your queery. I love pasteries that are composed of solid butter, but they aren't good for me. You have to make the hard choice to give it up, not the easy one to keep eating it. Good luck and don't ever forget this is about making YOU happy!
2006-09-07 19:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by shindaiwa21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like having friend for benefits. Its like having a sex friend because if comfort. Let the emotional feeling go and get yourself a boyfriend. Or get someone to be your sex friend. Although sex is an emotional thing for women but after a few time with the other new person it'll be fine. Have fun. Don't be a door mat.
2006-09-08 23:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by MissCuriousity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now u are his spare tyre. He is afraid that his new girlfriend will kick him off thus he want to keep u on his track. Selfish Man! I think he has only sex & not LOVE on his mind now! So stop giving in to him at once. If he really love u & his son, he should break up with his girlfriend and go back to u for forgiveness. Now, focus on yr beloved son. U could also go for counselling at e nearest family service centre. It's free of charge.
2006-09-07 20:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still having sex with him? Looks like he's got quite the deal worked out for him! Why would he come back? Obviously, you'd want him to be faithful then, and why should he do that since he gets both of you now, guilt free, although the truth is he's using you. How stupid can you get?! Oh, and btw, that "new" girlfriend that popped up right after you separated? I wouldn't be surprised if she was not that "new" after all.
2006-09-07 19:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you notice how many excuses you have made for him? How you measure him, should be in relation to his commitment to you as his only woman, wife and mother to his children.
There are many men who are lost and your husband will get no help from you unless he is willing to give up all his external affairs and focus on building a family. At the moment only you seem interested in doing this. Give him an ultimatum. Either he returns to you and your children and excludes all other extramarital affairs or totally leave you alone. If his affairs are too much to give up, then you know where you stand. To continue in this way is to dishonour yourself and your family. Your continuation of providing sex to him reflects your low self esteem. What would your children think of you as they grow up.
Confront him and stop living in denial by making up excuses to defend him.
2006-09-08 16:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby didn't want the family responsibilities, that's why he separated from you.
While in family with you his having sex with other women would have caused tension and embarrasments for him. Now he is free to have it with you and her and anyelse he wants to.
He is having a good time, Now since your husband still comes to you for sex, you can continue till you enjoy it, and until you don't feel being used. It's difficult to say that by letting your ex-hubby have sex with you will bring your family back, but if you are not in a position to start afresh with a new person...hang on and be hopeful.
2006-09-07 19:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by sameer s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange husband? if his g/f is so good, why come back to you for sex, don't you feel used and dirty if you knew about his sex life with another woman and still do the sex act with him.
If his focus is only sex & not commitment, why still think of a reconciliation? There are single mothers who happy out there without a husband, what more a unfaithful one?
As a man , I don't respect a man like him!! disgusting!!
2006-09-07 20:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think he's not really ready to move on yet and so he comes back to u because u are his comfort zone and he wants to keep coming back to what's familiar to him I don't know if u can trust him or not. That's up to u but u have to decide where your relationship is going. If u both want to work things out and get back together, it's all going to be up to both of u and if u want to go ahead and get a divorce, I don't think it's right to keep sleeping with each other as it's pointless.
2006-09-07 19:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋