I had a wonderful relationship with a man for 5 months, who moved to my state. when we met he had a gf of 1 month. I compromised my beliefs and wanted to be with him. they broke up on the way. then he left and we kept in touch in hope to see each other. 8 months later i found out he got back together with her. i let him go with no fight i understood. then they broke up&we started talking again. but werent officially together. he arranged a visit to finally come&see me after19months apart &the day i called to confirm the reservations she picked up. He screwed just b4 we met again. it was over for me.However recently i moved close to where he lives and he found me here. asked for forgiveness.and i can feel he s truly sorry.Before there was 2 years between us n we werent "together" although to me we were bcoz he let me no he loves me and wants2b w me although there was no title.Plz dont be critical-->I love this man with all my soul even after2 years.he s my air. Should we try again?
2006-09-07 19:15:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anna D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if u r sure tht he really likes u then ........u can.
2006-09-07 19:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by pooh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly and honestly would have to say NO.. He has done this to you more than once and you keep taking him back .. He now knows that no matter what he does all he has to do is plead a little and you will take him back... Besides the fact that once a cheater always a cheater .. If he truly cared about you the way you care about him he would never do anything to hurt you .. I think you have wasted enough of your life on this man and you are a better person and you need to move on with your life ... good luck in finding true love in the future .. Believe me it is out there for everyone ,,, You just have to be patient
2006-09-07 19:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by princess2luv_u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happens in a long distance relationship does not truly reflect what could happen if you are together more often. He has needs and if he wasn't seeing you for months then you couldn't fulfill them. If you see him regularly maybe he will not need to go anywhere else.
However, once you cheat on someone it is very easy to do it again. The hurdle is crossed and it makes it easier the second time. So watch out for the signs.
2006-09-08 05:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should try again. The only reason you think he being real is because you want him really bad. You had no problem being with him even when he had a girlfriend. Now its 2 yrs of the crazy drama and you asked this question. You are going to do what you want to do anyway so why ask?
2006-09-07 19:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to wait for next 3 months, u need that time to think about it. Find out little more about him in the meantime. Also, he should not get a feeling that everytime he can commit a mistake and come back to you!
2006-09-07 19:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To try or not is up to u. We can only give u a word of our own experience or feelings. To me, he had cheated on u few times. U forgive him everytime he asked for forgiveness on his betrayal. Don't feel he will not cheat on u again and repeat the same process with u.
2006-09-07 19:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds like an outright ******... a person that makes all guyz look bad.. =_="
personally i cant tell whether he was cheating on u with his gf or cheating on his gf with u..
regardless it seems that committment in this guy isnt there.. he likes being a loose cannon..
perhaps you can change that in him.. if you want go for it but i dont think he will change honestly.. and if he doesnt he isnt worth it.. afterall there are plenty of people out there... you just needa find the right one for you..
if u think he is the right one for you then go for it... just dont be suprised if a friend of yours who agrees wiht me says "I Told You So" about htat guy..
2006-09-07 19:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask this on here? You know you're going to get people to bash you. You should read your next to last sentence to yourself over and over and over and quit looking for other people to tell you it's ok.
2006-09-07 19:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by owensb01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he can't stop cheating...I don't know if he's worth it for ya...but if you really want it...he needs to prove himself to you, before you can obviously trust him again. I would think trusting someone like that would be VERY hard though!
Good luck!
2006-09-07 19:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so....long distance relationships dont work, cuz even wen they come to ur state you have no way of knowin if he left a wife or even kids behind....so yea....
2006-09-07 20:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater it 's been proven time and time again get rid of him and find a hero not a zero
2006-09-07 19:20:39 · answer #11 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋