my dad cheated on my mom and he told me and my bro and now the woman he cheated on my mom with is living at my grama's with me and my grama and my dad but my bro is with my grama he lives two doors away i like the woman who still likes my dad her name is katie she is a nice person but she wants to be with my dad my mom is trying to find a job and she hates that katie is here my dad likes katie and all but i dont know what to do if i dont do anything my mom and dad will break up i dont know what to do
2006-09-07 19:01:08 · 18 answers · asked by kickers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not much u can do but talk to ur parents and tell them how u feel
good luck and if u need someone to talk to im a great listener (so ive been told) u can always im me or email me at cowboy76360@yahoo.com and once again good luck
2006-09-07 19:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy76360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not help your parents although you feel that you are in the middle and should do something. You can't. It is not your fault that your dad has cheated on your mom sometimes adults just can't be with each other anymore. They will still love each other and of course they will love you and your brother. After all they did concieve you and cared for you. But just because they love you and will love each other not as husband and wife but as friends does not mean they will stay together. Thet as adults will have to make that choise on their own. Just be there for them both when they need support. Adults need support to sometimes even if it is just a hug or a card or to tell them what you did today.
2006-09-08 03:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by rahlyd swamp muffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear friend hon I know you are sad its a hard thing when you see your parents break up ,but im on your moms side with this if your dad loves your mom still he needs to see if he can work it out and he cant if he has another woan around him .Dad is the one hurting your mommy .I would just tell your dad mom is hurting enough ,and if you dont love her stop acting this way and move on with your woman ,If your dad doesnt love your mom she is better off away from him .There is not alot you can do but I would suggest be there for your mom ,she needs yah right now .and dad needs to decide and stop hurting your mom .if this woman he is with is a good woman she would not have ever dated your dad while he was married !!!!This says alot about her dont it ???good luck talk to dad about how you feel .im sorry
2006-09-08 02:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best shot right now is to not interfere with how your parents would want to resolve their situation. The best help that you could give your mom right now is to boost her ego, help her regain her dignity and move on. I was stuck in a marriage with a cheater for 30 years and I had long wanted to get out of it but the only thing that constantly stopped me is my not wanting to break my children's heart by separating from their dad. They had done all that they could to keep us together but it eventually ended up in our divorce. I had waken up one day realizing that I cannot just keep the marriage for the sake of my children's happiness because I woke up realizing that after wasting 30 years waiting and hoping for things to change, I now need to regain the self-respect that I had lost on all the years I waited and hoped for a better marriage, I woke up tired after doing everything that I could to keep my husband and save the marriage. I realized that I had exhausted all my emotions and I regret ever having married my ex-husband and the only happiness that the marriage brought to me were my 3 precious children. Be strong for your mom and make her feel that you support her and her decisions.
2006-09-08 02:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but is this real ? or is this a PRANK question? I'm starting to find that these questions are getting to be more bizzare than ever...
All I can say to you is PRAY really hard (if you believe in GOD)
Ask the LORD, JEHOVAH to hold you in his Arms...it seems that every one else is preoccupied. Your Father committing ADULTRY against your Mother and your Grama condoning it...or is she? How is it that the woman who is helping your Father destroy your Family allowed to Live at your Grand Mother's.
Is your Grand Mother allowing it on her own or does the house belong to your Father and Grama lives with him?
Something is wrong with this picture? Doesn't this "OTHER WOMAN" have her own place?
What on earth is your Mother doing? Is she OK. Tell her to pray and ask the LORD to forgive her of all trespasses, repent and give herself totally to the LORD and ask him to fight her battles. and protect her and give her strength, and grace her to endure ..it's really the LORD's battle....he doesn't like ADULTRY, and he doesn't like to see children hurt...Give the situation to the LORD and tell him, "LORD, JEHOVAH, PLEASE HELP ME NOT HURT SO BAD OVER THIS SITUATION INVOLVING MY DAD'S ACTIONS IN HIS MARRIAGE TO MY MOTHER....PROTECT ME AND MY BROTHER FROM ALL EVIL and HARM...AND MAY YOUR WILL BE DONE IN THIS SITUATION WITH MY DAD, MY MOM, AND THE WOMAN THAT MY DAD IS COMMITTING ADULTRY WITH. THANK YOU LORD, FOREVER.
Get your Bible, I pray you have one or maybe your Grandmama has one, somewhere in the house, and read the Book of Psalms...all of it. There are prayers that the spirit of the LORD will direct you to PRAY and that will help you to feel better.
Read Proverbs to obtain WISDOM...that will help you to grow up not to be ignorant. The LORD will take care of you since other folk are too busy with their behinds....Reading the Bible makes you feel better so teach your brother too. You and He should Pray together and read the Bible together and talk to the LORD he hears you. You'll see.
I'll be praying for you. GOD BLESS YOU CHILDREN.
Pray for your Father, Mother, Grandmama, and the "OTHER WOMAN". you'll see the LORD at work...things will change you'll see. No one can handle a situation better that GOD...he says "Vengence is Mine", he will handle your enemies for you...anything that hurts you is an ENEMY give all ENEMY situations to the LORD he's better at handling them....more than you can imagine.
don't forget to thank him every time he does something for you...always say thank you right then and there, don't wait.
Write back and let us know how you're doing.
2006-09-08 02:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to inform you that really it's between your dad, mom, and katie. It's going to be rough, just let all them know individually how you feel is the best thing.
2006-09-08 02:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by jwings19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey there really is nothing you can do. They have to work it out by themselves if they are going to stay together. What you can do is go to each of them seperately and tell them that you love them and that if they split up it will make you feel very very sad. Good Luck
2006-09-08 02:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dalton125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not your responsibility. The fact that you are in this situation tells me that nobody is putting you as a priority. How old are you? If you are old enough to be emancipated I would do it. You sound like you may be the only real adult anyway.
2006-09-08 02:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Alice W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask Jerry Springer.
2006-09-08 02:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by rab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just share with your dad about your concern about this lady & request him not to desert you all , then seek his opinion and reply . I am sure he will respect your concern & will consider .Good luck
2006-09-08 02:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋