I have been out of school for 2 years and in that time i have been taking care of my godson, I have been wanting to go to school but i keep putting my family before myself. I work during the night and babysit during the morning, I am so unsure of what I should do, and now my sister is having a baby and she wants me to take care of him while she works and goes to school. Im stuck can somebody please help me.
2006-09-07 18:43:08 · 12 answers · asked by RS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You do not need to be stuck - you tell her that you want to have your life and that as much as you love her children, you can not tend them full time at this young age. You have school and work of your own to figure out. These are important years, you can't waste them playing full time mommy to someone elses kids.
Maybe you can do both and gradually wean from your sister's service. What if you start school on a light course load? Get your feet wet, see how you like it, without taking too much time away from what you are doing now. You sister will be slowed down as the birth comes upon her and you can then shift a bit more away from doing the kids with school as an excuse (if you like it and really want to do that).
Peace!
2006-09-07 18:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your butt back into school. You're being used. Where do you think these people willl be when you're 42, working at 7-11, printing last week's lotto numbers for a guy who collects Tv Guide covers & lives off beef jerky & Yoohoo.
There is no place in the future for the uneducated. A Bachelor's is the new high school diploma. Or marry rich...or just walk the earth and get into adventures.
Taking care of other people's children for free is not a good idea. Help your family but make boundaries. Rent out a room & make your own life if necessary to combat the "You live in my house!" guilt trip.
2006-09-08 01:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by thepolishpen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 43, married with two kids, and finally going back for my bachelor's degree.
Have you considered taking online classes? I attend Davenport University which is fully accredited. One thing to know, is that the poorer you are, the more you are likely to qualify for loans and better yet, grants.
Why are you babysitting? Are you living at her house, or is she just expecting you to do child care for free? Or is she paying you? Don't do the daycare unless you feel you can do it? You're only stuck if you don't say no.
2006-09-08 01:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to college. It's the best way out of the rut you're in. People aren't going to always encourage you to do well for yourself so you've got to take charge of your own life. How fair is it that your sister gets to go to school, hold a job, AND have a baby for YOU to take care of???? Go to college yourself and expand your world. Don't let other people hold you back.
2006-09-08 01:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by karen W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you believe that education is very important... people's mind set should be, I'm not going to stop learning.. even just in reading different kinds books.. if you make it to do the multitasking, then you can do personal study and do some of your house work too... studying is not only st school but also in the House.
2006-09-08 01:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helping out your family is admirable but there is also the fact that you may be getting used by doing so. You need to think of yourself too so if you want an education, go get it.!
2006-09-08 01:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when you have to start living life for yourself and just say f**k the other stuff that is holding you back!! Go for it and much luck to you!
2006-09-08 01:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by rab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if school is something you really want to do--you should definitely do everything you can to make it happen. otherwise, 20 or 30 years down the road from now, chances are you'll look back and wonder "what if".
good luck!!
2006-09-08 01:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by duckie3077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister is being selfish. I believe you should go and achieve the highest education! couldn't your sister let your parents take care of the baby?
2006-09-08 01:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by grumpys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online courses. knock you basics out of the way at home then when your done with the babysitting, finsh your degree at a college. good luck
2006-09-08 01:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋