Baby......?

Question

I have recently found out im pregnant. (6 wks )
My bf broke up with me coz he don't want the kid and told me to get rid of it. i told him im keepin it . now he says hes gunna take the child off me when its born... Can he do that im so scared ..

Answer 1

No. No judge anywhere would allow him to take a newborn from its mother. That's ridiculous.

If I were you, I would consider forgoing child support and asking him to sign away his paternal rights. It would suck to have no child support, but it might be worth it to have this hostility out of yor life and away from your kid.

Answer 2

Dear Shellie,

Just how do you think that he could do that? He has no rights, and definitely isn't responsible enough for a baby.
Looked at your previous questions to get a better understanding of what is happening in your life-is this ex the same drug-taking man who would never consider your feeling a while ago?
I think that he just wants to scare you, so he feels like he has some power over you, so be assured that no-one will let anyone other than you raise your baby without your permission, unless you for some reason aren't living a good enough lifestyle to raise a baby, which I'm sure isn't the case.
Just don't stress about this, there's no way he can take your baby away. He only wants to scare you.
Stay away from him- since he didn't want you to have this baby, there is a chance that he could be violent and try to hurt you to hurt your baby.
Stay well away from him, and good luck for the future, sweetie. You'll be fine.

Answer 3

Don't let him! He's probably just trying to scare you into "getting rid" of the baby. Sure, first he wants you to "get rid of it" and then he's going to take the child away from you! So what's it gonna be for him? If he can't take the responsibility then he should keep his pecker in his pants.

Get some help. Was there anyone else around when he said that to you? Write it down, date/time/circumstances of conversation. Write down everything from now on so you have a log that he has threatened you and the baby. It's also up to you to put who the father is on the birth record, so if you're really scared and can't get any help, then put "John Doe" as the father until he can prove that he is by taking a paternity test.

Answer 4

The only possibility he has of doing that is to prove to a judg that you are an unfit mother and a danger to the child....WHICH is extremely unlikely.

Given, also, that US courts tend to favor mother rights over those of the father....he would have a very long and expensive court fight before he can get that kid away from you.

Make sure you list him as the biological father on the birth certificate then go after him for child support. The only way he can get out of support is to agree to a paternity test (DNA test) which if the child IS his..will only cause him to be locked into providing support. BUT REMEMBER if this is the route you take, he can also make your life miserable by demanding visitation rights and joint custody of the child, which the court will grant unless you can prove HE is an unfit parent.

Answer 5

Unless you are an unfit mother there is a very very small chance that you would have the child taken away from you. As long as you are responsible, drug free and have a roof over your head and means to take care of the child (whether it be a job, help from your family, WIC, etc) you shouldnt have a problem. Now he might get visitation but no reason to see why he would get custody - and this all has to be done within the courts. Honestly my first reaction was he said this to scare you into getting an abortion. If he is immature enough to break up with you and threaten you I dont think you have to worry too much about him wanting the baby Good Luck

Answer 6

Welll, he does have rights to the child if you do indeed go ahead with the pregnancy. However, he simply cannot go to court and say "I want the baby" and he gets him/her--you have rights too. The only way he can shut you out is if he can prove you are endangering the child. And he has to have some very provocative evidence, not just his word.

If he didn't want the child to begin with , why the hell is he telling you he will take the child from you? Simple--he is trying to intimidate you. He wants you to be scared so you will get rid of the baby and absolve him of any responsibility. It takes two to tango--if you want this child, you go ahead and have this child. Sad that your boyfriend is such an a**, and that you have procreated with him, but that's the way it goes sometimes. It's times like this one when we realize that there is a HUGE consequence of having sex--and it can be very complicated and messy if it does indeed happen.

Good luck!!

Answer 7

Oh, honey! Have the baby. He does have rights, but he can't just take the child away from you! He is trying to scare you! Start to document every time you talk, each time he comes into contact with you, and talk to his mother. She may or may not know, but she doesn't want to see her grandchild in this turmoil! He is trying to back you up against a wall. He was willing to make the child; now, he should be willing to either step out or help raise him/her. As long as you document everything, if he tries to take the child from you, at least you have a trail of what he did or did not do, which will prove if he is fit or not. Good luck!

Answer 8

The only way he can do that is if theres reason to.....obviously don't know you but unless your an alcoholic, drug addict or something else then I would tell him to....get lost (only a bit harsher). I think that if your not married the baby has first kinda rights to you the 'primary carer'...which i'm guessing what you'll be. Don't worry about him and his mouth - he's just panicking about the fact that you can get financial assistance from him and still let him have nothing to do with the baby.

Just get yourself checked out, try to get him out of your system, prepare for your new arrival and stay healthy. Have a chat with your Doctor if your not sure but I wouldn't spend any more time thinking about 'you know who' - LOSER....good luck with it all.

Answer 9

No he cant at all,he sounds so immature. He has probably just said that to you to upset you. No1 would take a newborn child or even a 3year old child away from its mother who it has a bond to unless they were a `unfit` mother. The most he would probably get even if he were to go talk to a lawyer would b a overnight stay once a week like my sons dad if he has regular contact from birth. Try not let it get to u, u can do without the stress.

takecare

Answer 10

Tell him good luck in court, cause he doesn't stand a chance. All your lawyer has to do is bring up the fact that he wanted you to abort it and the judge will know that he didn't even want this baby to begin with. Not only that, but unless you are a drug-using, abusive person, the judge will not take the baby away from you. And do what the last two people said and document every bit of contact you have with him.

Answer 11

My sons father broke up with me after i found out I was pergnant. So i know how you feel. But the odds are very unlikly that he can take your baby away. And if he does pay chil support then he will have the right to see the baby. But untill you cross those bridges I wouldn't worry about them. Chanes are he won't even mess with you in the long run. Not to mention the money it would cost him just to try. Good Luck.