Baby......?

Question

I have recently found out im pregnant. (6 wks )
My bf broke up with me coz he don't want the kid and told me to get rid of it. i told him im keepin it . now he says hes gunna take the child off me when its born... Can he do that im so scared ..

Answer 1

I don't know.
Do not have an abortion, no matter what.
If you are not able to take care of your baby there are plenty of couples who would love to adopt your baby and love it and care for it.

No-one is ever OK after an abortion. It kills the Baby and causes emotional, physical, spiritual harm to the Mom.

Keep a journal of what he says to you. Dates and times. Threats and promises. Just so you can be accurate if you need to defend yourself.

Get prenatal care. You need to tell your parents. They might be shocked for a while but they will find out. This way you can pick the time and place.

God Bless you,

Answer 2

Please do not worry, he may be upset or angry or just a dick, but the truth of the matter is that while he will have to pay maintenance payments if he is working until the child is 18 or later if he or she enters further education.
The most important fact is that you were not married which essentially means he has no rights at all, this is because PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY IS ONLY CREDITED TO THE FATHER IF THE COUPLE ARE MARRIED AT THE TIME OF THE BIRTH.
This does not however mean that he is not entitled to apply for visitation rights at some time in the future, which if it happens hopefully you will prove to be mature as a person as well as a mother and give your child a chance to know its father (so long as he is able to provide an adequate and safe environment for the child.)

So please don't worry, just forget about him for the time being and enjoy your pregnancy and motherhood, if he does continue to harass you make sure you write everything down and contact the police who will go and have a chat with him and if necessary take more serious action to ensure you and your child can live in safety.
Good luck, love your child with all your heart every day.

Answer 3

No, once the baby is born you are the sole responsible adult for the child. You are un married and not living with the father. I am assuming that he will not have his name on the birth certificate and you will give the baby your surname.
If you have chosen to definitley keep the baby, try to ensure that you will have a support network whether it's your parents, friends. You will need this just in case your ex decides to carry out his threat. They will also provide a reliable evidence to a family court. The main thing this bloke will do for himself is put himself on the map for child maintenance payments.
A warning he may indeed get a visiting order to which you can only appeal.
Just be firm with this bloke, it just sounds like he is trying to scare you into his decision.
But, on another note, being a single parent is damn hard and sometimes not fun at all. You need to make sure your decision is made by you and for you.

Answer 4

He can't do that, you're not married to him. He would first have to prove that you are an unfit mother, and that he can be a better parent than you can. All of that has to wait until the child is even born. Get him to sign the birth certificate. That is an open admission of his paternity. You will get child support from him. That is, if he is working. If not, you can prove that the child's best interest would not be good with him, because he can't even provide for it. You will then be named as the child's legal guardian if you can prove that the child is being well cared for by you. Look forward to him fighting it. Just don't give him anything he can use against you in court. Take care of yourself and your baby, and you will win.

Answer 5

He can try. If at any time he threatens you or your unborn child; call the law and get a withtstraining order agrinst him. Is he married? How old are you and him? If he does not want anything to do with you or the baby stay away from him. Don't call him or bother him. This baby is your #1 priority right now. Protect youself and your unborn chid; if it means raising it alone. Good luck and God bless you, your unborn child and Lord help this man want to raise his child. Pray about it and give it to the Lord and he will take care of all 3 of you. Don't pray anything bad against this man. Stand back and watch God at work. You focus on you and your child and God will take care of the rest.

Answer 6

ITS HORRIBLE ISNT IT!!!!! You are not the only one who has had this done to them! you have been given lots of advice and have some hard choices to make. ONLY YOU can decide what is best.
If you are scared of your boyfriend then I would stay clear of him and lie if thats what it takes to get rid of him.
If you want to stay with him then give him, then give it a bit of time and see how things go.
You have 9 months yet and anything can happen so I wouldn't stress about things just look after yourself and things will turn out for the best, although it may not seem like that now!
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

Don't worry Shellie. The law ALWAYS awards custody to the Mother of a child. That is unless for some reason she can't look after him or her. I can see just by your question that you will be a great mother so you have no worries there. If thats his attitude neither you or your child need him.

Take care x

Answer 8

I doubt very much that he could take your baby. He would have to show that you are an unfit mother. I think he is just bluffing to get a reaction from you. He does not want the baby, he asked you to get rid of it. He is just being an ***. It seems to me even though it will be hard, that you are better off with out him. He sounds very immature and selfish. Good luck with your baby.

Answer 9

I dont think he can take the baby away. read what you just wrote you described your baby as in : " im keepin IT" "gunna take the CHILD when ITS born" what kind of mother are you anyways. what kind of person describes a baby like that!!!!

Answer 10

He cant do no such a thing. I would tell him if he keeps making threats that I will get a restraining order slapped on his @$$. If he keeps harassing you then call the law on him. Dont let him scare you and fill your head full of lies. AND DONT LET ANY OF THESE JERKS ON HERE TALK YOU INTO GIVING YOUR CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION. You go to your family for help. Take care.