Let's say you have a child raise them, love them and absolutely would do anything for them...they come to you and say they are gay? Do you stop loving them? Because I never understood how a parent can do that after loving a child for 18 years, and then suddenly stop! How would you handle it?
2006-09-07 18:17:45 · 25 answers · asked by blumaxxx59 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Some of you so called human beings that are answering this question with such ignorance and foolishness. Fudgepackers and queers, there is no need for name calling. And the question is an open question, it is hypothetical, so do not pretend that you know me or my family. I for one would embrce my child and NEVER, EVER TELL THEM THEY ARE GOING TO HELL!
2006-09-07 18:33:25 · update #1
And furthermore, shoving "Christianity" down their throats, because organized religions say that homosexuality is wrong. Christianity is not a "cure"! They will not be puniched for being gay, from me or from GOD!
2006-09-07 18:36:24 · update #2
Be supportive and keep loving them as always. I'd probably join PFLAG immediately as well. I don't think that parents who shove their kids away after such a revelation stop loving them. I do think that some make the horrible mistake of forgetting about UNCONDITIONAL love. Also, if they are a religious fanatic, it will be twice as hard for the gay person to deal with all the b.s. they'll have to hear from Mom/Dad. The whole "I still love you, I just hate sin" thing has got to be the worst thing to hear from your own parents. It's so...disingenuous and deliberately generic. But, there are parents who completely disown their child after hearing this from them. That must be truly heartbreaking to experience. Which brings up the following question to parents such as that: Why would a person risk losing their family if it were truly a "choice?"
2006-09-07 18:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it would be like I left the room and someone changed the channel; it would take a bit to change gears and catch up, but then could go with it. I could not imagine turning my back on my own child for being who she is. If she can find love and happiness, who cares?
For the many answerers who are refering to choice; I have never known a gay person that chose to be gay. You are born or shaped in young life to feel attracted to whoever. It's not a lifestyle choice like being a yuppie, going goth, deciding money isn't needed and you'll live off the land or whatever else a kid can do that a parent won't like. It's not something they can change or grow out of.
2006-09-07 18:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by Myr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in their shoes. They are just different from the "Mainstream" that doesn't make it wrong, or your love for them any less. Everyone needs love! Just make sure they know to protect themselves form all the nasty STD's out there and maybe love them more because I'm sure it's not easy. Alot of emotions, feelings at 18 anyway. But their still my child and I will always be their mom, what goes on in their private, "bedroom" really doesn't involve me at all, just would be glad we have the special relationship where we can talk about anything.
2006-09-07 18:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by lady0959 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The way I look at it, there really is no reason why the parent should stop loving their kid, and like you, I don't see how someone could just show all this love and care for something they created and then just waste all those years and throw it all away within seconds of their kid coming out.
2006-09-07 18:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would still love my child if they are gay then thats there choice if they are 18 they may have to still listen to me for somethings but not all i wouldent like tell them you cant be gay i wont allow it if they want to be gay then i would just live and let it slide
2006-09-07 18:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by blue_dragon6475 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...First of all I would never have kids, not even in some twisted up fantasy...But for those out there who have kids they should just live and forgive/live and let live....who cares what the child decides...It shouldn't intervine with love
2006-09-07 18:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Japan_is_home 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to find out my child is gay, but I wouldn't stop loving them for it. I might think twice before shaking thier hand (don't know where its been) or hugging them (don't know if they're into Oedipism either), but people will make their own choices.
I would not be supportive of their choice and I would be very clear that I think they have made a "sh**y" choice in life, but it is your loss if you can't maintain the same relationship.
2006-09-07 18:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would love my child no matter what, even if he became the next Hitler. Parents love is supposed to be unconditional but some parents just suck
2006-09-07 18:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them that you don't like it but its there decision to have what kind of sexual life that they want to have they still need all of the same love because there is a lot of people that say really bad things to gay people
2006-09-07 18:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by jessica_right2001 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why would anyone discuss their sex lives with their parents? Or anyone else for that matter?
I could personally care less about someone's sexual preference, but I never understood why "coming out" is so important? Live your life how you want and let that be that.
2006-09-07 18:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by cognitively_dislocated 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋