I know this girl who has been in a relationship with this guy for a while. He makes way more money than she does yet he won't help her financially at all. She got down on her luck and he won't even give her gas money. I help her when i can but i feel if this is your boyfriend and he claims he loves you and cares about you, he would help you get back on your feet. why stay with a person like that? Should she dump him or what?
2006-09-07 18:09:15 · 17 answers · asked by Pancho 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She needs to cut! If they got get married, lets say, its for better or for worse. Your looked at as one. so why would you treat your other half that bad? And what makes matters worse is they are still dating, he should be on his best behavior courting her. If he doesnt show he really has her back (financially, emotionally whatever!) then there really is no future anyways.
2006-09-07 18:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by muuuua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to how you fill about this man or lady and how thing where be for you got to this point. I have had to go throw this and It was hard but my husband got hurt at work and I had to do it all. We had no money coming in and no food for the kids. There is 16 years diff in our ages and that makes it hard . So if you love this person stay with them and do what you have to. If you don't then think of what it will take to make you and your family happy . If he just will not help you then I would find some one that will you need to do what is right by you and not them. I would not stay with a man that I had to do that for not even if I loved him.
Wish you the best
2006-09-07 18:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by pc0671 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely dump him. Not that I'm saying that she should be a golddigger or anything like that but if she is down on her luck and can't count on her partner who supposedly loves her to help her than who can she count on. If she is going to struggle being near a person that has money and can help her but won't then I think she should struggle on her own. It makes more sense that way.
2006-09-07 18:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by hilda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds merely like me... properly, tell him you like it sluggish and he could go. do exactly it and don't problem appropriate to something. all of it approaches works out, contained in the strangest approaches! while he cheated and left, I asked him to help me pay the lease for 3 months until our renting settlement expired. He mentioned he might, yet did he? NO! And did I stay to tell the tale? Oh, definite I did. nonetheless do no longer understand how, yet I did! all the fixtures became his and he took it, i did no longer also have a sofa. the placement became empty! I took the final 2 fixtures peaces he left to %. up later, because of the fact he did no longer shop is promise with the hire. And my place looks outstanding now, merely the way that i prefer it - and not in any respect ought to because of the fact 'he does no longer purely like the style...' blah blah... And did he come crawling decrease back to me? OH, definite he did... and does he stay with me now? OH, NO! He can look after himself until the day he asks me to marry him. I won't wade by that style of element back! (greater desirable than a million/2 of my sales is going into the lease) we are survivors my pal! do exactly it!!! good success! xxx
2016-09-30 11:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how deep the relationship is. She needs money for gas OK so they probably dont even live together.
No, he should not give her the money, I wouldnt expect a girlfriend to give me money if I was down on my luck. Also it creates a dependency and sets the tone for the relationship and future. Hell no, he should dump her if all she wants him for is money, maybe she concocted her 'bad phase' to see if she could get a free ride with him.
2006-09-07 18:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is a funny thing. Some people stay very guarded when it comes to giving/loaning out money. (Rightfully so). Others are as generous as they can be with it. These are no doubt very nice people, but they get burned plenty in a life time. That's for sure. I personally think he should help her out, but the fact is that he isn't obligated to , etc etc. Hopefully this is a situation that'll work itself out before she really becomes REALLY in need of money and he becomes a huge dick by saying no to her needs.
2006-09-07 18:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't dump him. She should get a job and support herself. The guy should not have to foot the bills when they are just dating and also the bills should be shared if they marry. Too many men are used by women just because of attitudes that the man should be the bread winner.
2006-09-07 18:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he may also be in some sort of trouble . or may be he has his own expenses . if niether this is then you should observe how deep there relation's are . if the intimacy is there then may be he is a miser by nature , if by nature he suites her then it's ok other wise you should talk to her if she can do what you are thinking to dump him and help her in doing so because she may need some help from a dear one
2006-09-07 18:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! He's trash! I can't believe that. It's not like he has to carry her on his back but daymn! I thought relationships were good friends with all the benefits...and friends, no matter what kind you are, are suppose to support eachother right?
2006-09-07 18:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should dump him. All relationships are gonna have ups and downs, the beauty of it is that when youre down, you have your mate to lift you up, and vice versa.
2006-09-07 18:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by mckenzington 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋