I was in a very long relationship (+3). I really saw the future with this person...until I felt that I was getting more hurt than happiness. It's easier said than done...that's for sure. Even though I still love this person with all my heart, I was the one that had to break it off. But I can't seem to put this person behind me even though 2 months since the break up have already passed. What can I do to finally forget about him and move on? How much time does it actually take? He didn't fight for the relationship, so could it be that he never truly loved me enough to make it work?
WHAT TO DO???
2006-09-07 17:56:35 · 13 answers · asked by Lina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
2 months is very little time to forget someone you loved deeply and spent 3 years with.
Although it is hard... take time for yourself. Stop thinking that you need HIM but that it didn't work out... and bla bla bla. Instead... take time for yourself... Learn from this relationship. What was good, what was bad.... what do you want from life, from a partner, for yourself, how do you want him to make you feel. There is no better time to be selfish than after a breakup. Healing is long... and no one can give you a specific time delay... it will take the time it takes.
Now... you take your time.. if he didn't fight for you... and you wanted him to... then he is not the right one! Focus on yourself... on rebuilding the independent and confident woman in you. Know what you want and what you don't want in a man. After a while... you will be able to make peace with it... and you will have grown a little more.
If you were getting more hurt than happiness... you did good. There is no doubt. You listened to yourself and you have to keep doing this.
Be strong!
2006-09-07 18:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Socrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems of the heart ,only the heart can answer. Love is vulnerable. When you fall in love, don't expect it to be a fairy tale that will always have a happy ending. Sometimes the person whom you love mosts is also the same person who would hurt you deeply. Understand that time does not heal a wounded heart but it is what you do with the time. Let go. If he comes back, then surely he is for you. But if he didn't, let it just be a history. Go out and find the right guy. It is not wise to cry over spilled milk. Time is short and is precious, enjoy it while you have it.
2006-09-07 18:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 04:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter going through the exact same thing right now, her relationship was approximately the same length of time as well. She put all of her eggs in his basket, and ultimately he broke it off with her to be with someone else. Since she's back home, I try very hard to keep her busy. I encourage her to go out, meet new people, reconnect with old friends. Just last night she asked me how long it took me to stop loving her father (we divorced when she was 3), and I told her I still loved him, but I learned to live with out him. You will probably always have some love deep inside which remains for that person, but you know it wasn't meant to be, so you move forward. Simply take all the time you need until you're confident enough to take that bold step and go out again. Just remember, that in order to experience real love, true love, you have to surrender yourself all over again and risk the possibility of hurt.
2006-09-07 18:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetie kudos for doing the right thing even though its hard. The best wayto forget about an old relationship is to get involved in a new one Good luck
2006-09-07 17:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problems of the heart are the absolute worse. I sympathize with you. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope that you can find something to take the place of the relationship to keep you occupied. That and lots of good friends for support, faith and fortitude might get you over the hump. Won't hurt to give it a try.......
2006-09-07 18:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by silhouette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to put your emotional health in someone else's hands, you know. Who's idea of a good relationship is that?
2006-09-07 18:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard to say only time can heal.. just make friends.. entertain your self be happy..
2006-09-07 18:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by xxxxxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Replace him with someone else.
2006-09-07 17:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
develop a hobby.
party(dancing, music, the lot).
2006-09-07 18:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋