Is this rude?? any other suggestions?

Question

I had a best friend, untill about 9mnths ago.. then she really pissed me off heaps (actually she had been for years, but I finally snapped) , so I stopped talking to her..and whenever I see her everything about her angers me to the point where i feel like punching her.. She is just a load mouth inconsiderate cow, that talks over everyone and interupts all conversations if she isn't involved (that is just the start of why I can't stand her) she stopped hanging out for a bit.. and I admit I b*tched about her alot.. now she has started hanging out in my circle of friends of again I have been ignoring her as I am not 2 faced and do not want to pretend to be nice to her when I have been B*tching.. I know a few people find this hard that I am Ignoring her completely but really I think that is probably the best thing for me to do, I fear if I talk to her I will punch her or worse, But I am in no way going to stay home and not go somewhere just because she will be there.. what do you think??

Answer 1

you're doing the right thing, you have to know who your enemies are and then you have to be ruthless, no going back.
I had a similar experience and as far as I am concerned actions speak louder than words and if someone deliberately antagonises you and infuriates you then that is enemy behaviour so this is an enemy.
This actually happened over a period of decades but once I identified and got rid of my enemies the quality of my life improved 1000%, less stress and anger. And my enemies suddenly realised how much they actually needed my friendship, too late of course.

Answer 2

If you are to a level of anger where you may resort to punching, your best bet is to stay away until you can let go of your anger.

You may want to confont this person alone, if the problem persists.

You could start by saying to her, "You know 'jane', sometimes you make me so mad, I want to knock the living crap out of you, but I don't do it because it is not the right thing to do, and I am just really tired of getting upset with you when you do this... and that, and you can't keep your mouth shut, like the time when you said this.. and that."

Get it out in the open, you obviously have nothing to lose, and you might learn a thing or two about yourself, because I am sure she will have some things to say as well.

Good luck

Answer 3

I think it's a good idea to not let her being around your friends cause you to isolate yourself from your friends. However, I do kind of agree with the others, you should put the past behind you. Maybe you guys aren't good as friends, and that's completely fine. But let go of this, don't completely ignore her because that puts your other friends in an awkward position. Just be polite. If you don't want to be her friend anymore, then just treat her like an associate...just talk to her when she's there, but don't get too close to her anymore if everytime you do, she hurts your feelings or whatever.

Answer 4

I totally know the type of person you're talking about. Since a direct confrontation with her will probably not be very productive and may lead to violence, I wouldn't suggest trying to talk to her face to face. I also think that talking to your other friends about her will only make them uncomfortable because they'll feel caught in the middle. Maybe you could try writing her a letter expressing the reasons why you have trouble being friends with her. Don't be mean or angry sounding, just try to be reasonable and try to show her why her behavior is making your interactions with her difficult. Good luck.

Answer 5

no, it is not your fault at all that she is so f**king annoying. i'm talking based on life experience. i have (now had) a friend like that, FYI. we started be friends since we were 11. when we were 13, we both had a crush on the same guy. 3 months after a started school, my parents ent me to a boarding school. one fine day, i called her and she proudly told me that she and the guy are a couple. i was happy for her, because that time i had gotten over the guy. but when i went to my old school again i was so shocked to hear that she actually went around spreading rumours that i was jealous of her being the guy's girlfriend! DEAR LORD! i didn't know what to do. i was SOOOOO stupid by sticking with her til i finish high school. i was holding back, actually. i couldn't tell her how much i hate her. they were not together for long, by GOD's miracle they broke up. serve her right. nobody can stand such b**ch. she's the kinda gurl who wud talk to every guy and claim that they are so into her. like your friend, she loves to interrupt into people's conversation and wud try to know every single word i talk with my other friend. then, she wud embarass me, laugh at me in public, in front of everybody, making me look so stupid. after high school, thank GOD we went to seperate ways. i changed my number, and never answer any of her calls if she calls my house. i cut off every connection to her, i cut off everything that she can reach me with. still, she got my number from some idiot. she called, and i just said "f**k off". THE END. still think you are being rude? not at all. i did worst. but i feel better!

Answer 6

I think your doing Great!!! If you know you cant be around someone the best thing you can do is keep her at arms length. You dont have to stay at home or be afraid to go someplace because she might be there. I think your doing the right thing for you and thats cool to me. Has for others thinking your being hard on her..give it time she will show her true self to them soon enough and they will all want to know how you kept from hittin her. Good Luck!! Keepin it real..

Answer 7

according to hazard you could entertain while your Aunt isn't around. I study the different solutions from human beings and if she have been my aunt, i might have a private chat together with her. i might tell her that she injury your individuals thoughts and then i might ask her (exact ideas you) to refrain from this interest sooner or later. there's a saying that has been around for an prolonged time: in case you haven't any longer something advantageous to declare, do no longer say something in any respect. playstation - i'm "previous", too and that i nonetheless appreciate the thoughts of others.

Answer 8

sounds like you are handeling it pretty well. I would be yelling and punching her. I had a big falling out with a girlfriend in the group of girls I hung out with...well, she turned on me and lied about me, to a guy she was screwing-then they broke up. Well-I found out her lies, started dating him to p*ss her off, called her & went to her door to punch her lights out-but, her mom got in the way, so I just crank called her, threw rotton chicken meat in her mailbox, rotton eggs and dog food on her front door...basic petty vandalizim...tee hee! Im awful!!!!

I saw her about 4 or 5 years after that whole thing...I looked at her, recognized her-then remembered "oh yea, Im supposed to HATE her" she did the same thing, because she started *running* out of the store she was in. I (like a cat after a bird) started running after her! I snatched her hair, but she got away. I dont know if Id have punched her that day, I think I wanted to, but maybe I wouldn't have....shoot...maybe I would have!

dont do what I did! just ignore her!

Answer 9

I think you both need to grow up, put the past behind you as good lessons learned, and start again without the bitchyness and backstabbing. If there are enough good vibes, you may become friends again.

Answer 10

we all have people in our lives that we wish werent. you have to let it go. you cant keep holding onto this, cos it will just drive you crazy. and wheres that gonna get you? hate is baggage, life is too short to be pissed off all the time.