Is it weird to not really like anyone and to spend all kinds of time alone? I mean I work fairly alone and I don't really interact a lot with others, and when I interact a lot, I tend to not get along with them. I tend to feel like they aren't as bright or something.
So is this a psychological disorder?
Yes, I do get lonely and I realize I don't really have any friends because I haven't treated people well because the truth is I don't enjoy most people's company!
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
2006-09-07 17:30:24 · 25 answers · asked by goof 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You're not alone!
Get rid of the negativities. You don't expect a sudden change but gradually, it will help.
2006-09-07 17:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Muffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think there is anything wrong with you. Some people cannot stand their own company and are these social butterflies that spend most of their time never developing any real bonding relationships either. I remember reading an article several years ago, however, I cannot recall the source. It said that in the course of a life time the average person is lucky if he or she has five really close friends that are life time companions. I think you are looking for relationships that are meaningful and compliment your life rather than shallow boring ones. I do not see anything wrong with that. Being choosy about who you let into your life saves you a lot of heartache in the long run. Just curious- what is your birth date - I work as a metaphsycial counsellor, there are certain karmic patterns that come with the day we are born. Stop beating yourself up.
2006-09-08 00:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way: You have very defined social preferences.
Western society allows us that option. We have comfortable lives where everything is an option: What food we eat, what clothes we wear, what music we listen to, and even what people we socialize with (or not).
I can be the same about people as you. I have moved around alot in life and known many, many people, who I've made bonds with and really appreciated. Over time though I have wearied of the process. Now, I'm at a place in life where my marriage and starting a family take priority- socialising will come when it comes. I don't have a social life - but that doesn't bother me although it did for a while.
I've learned that friendships and social relationships take work and a certain level of responsibility. It has to be a special / ideal individual or group of people now to make me muster up that sort of energy.
I'm sure that my tastes in people would not be so picky if we had nuclear fall-out and relied on strong social bonds. But for now I'm happy to be unsocial. It doesn't mean I'm a snob or a recluse.
Don't feel guilty bad about it - you are who you are. Just don't push EVERYONE away. Keep / make a couple of close contacts and nurture them. You shouldn't feel that you have to spread yourself around, but we all need support in time of need and it's healthy to be that for a select few in return.
2006-09-08 03:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's this book, portions of which you can find online, called the Traits of Highly Sensitive People. Often, sensitive and intelligent people will find themselves feeling disconnected from the world around them. Because their intuition as well as their intelligence is above average, they will tend to not understand -- enjoy, or like -- many of the people they have to interact with everyday. They will feel the shallowness that other people no longer notice. They will sense the lack of sincerity in a smile. They are more attuned to silent traits, like body language or eye expressions.
Highly sensitive people are easily put on "overload" when they have to come into contact with too many people. Their auditory nerves, intuition, keen intelligence, and natural ability to analyze, means that no meeting is ever really casual, or easily forgotten. These are not "roll off the back" sort of people, but people who, instead, tend to process too much, too quickly. For that reason, they often become "loners," preferring to limit their company to a select few.
2006-09-08 01:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Cynanon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many want to affirm you by telling you there is nothing wrong with you. I think they are not listening & you are saying there is & you want some help to figure it out. It may be that you don't like your self. It may be some other reasongs. You do need to listen to them & see that you are not alone, & may be very intelligent, critical, & do have good sense of our self compared to someothers. Don't compare yourself to others. You seem to recognize a need that is not met yet. Look for one person you can trust, even though they may not be 100% likable or as bright, but has some things to offer you. Talk with that person to learn what you can from them. You may also think about professional help to answer your questions about yourself. You might find some things that are wrong & get help in addressing those issues. On the other hand, you might find you are okay & find reasurance in that.
2006-09-08 03:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Counselor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't as rare as you might think.
I'm guessing you find their conversation trivial and don't wish to play their 'social games', and are often preoccupied with serious issues on your mind, while others are talking about American Idol or some bullshit?
It's just your personality and there is nothing wrong with you. Friends are to find when you are like this, I know. But there are people out there that you can connect with, you just haven't found them yet.
2006-09-08 00:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like there is anything wrong with you. You are who you are, if you don't like spending time with lots of people then thats your choice. If other people have a problem with that then thats there problem. If you are happy with your situation don't change it, if on the otherhand your not happy then be proactive and change your situation. Maybe join a group of people who have the same interests as you so that you have something to talk about. Good luck!
2006-09-08 00:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by wombatusium 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry, just be yourself.
By the way tell you some jokes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-09-08 00:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find an online freind first in your own city. Then develop a kinship with them find common intersets and common dislikes both are important so you can understand each other better then go do something together that you both like.
2006-09-08 00:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by rahlyd swamp muffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're a misanthrope.
That's ok. though. Maybe you're just smart - many people ARE indeed jerks, and not EVERYONE we meet automatically deserves "dignity" and "respect."
Maybe your standards for relationships and friendships are really high. That's a good thing, in my opinion.
I have discovered that the richest, most talented, and most successful people in history have been loners. So maybe you're in good company.
Love, Jack.
2006-09-08 00:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋