I know I am pretty and Will not be difficult to be out there again, I just cant find strengh to do so...Does anyone ever went trough this? Please, I dont need stupid comments, just maybe someone to talk to....You probably will say Find a Therapy, but that is not the case
2006-09-07 17:24:18 · 16 answers · asked by SILVINHA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave...
Get up and freaking leave.
It's that simple. Unless he's got you chained to the floor..
Leave
2006-09-07 17:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by RUNINTLKT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are there kids involved? If there isn't and it's just a type of dependence that s keeping you there then you should really take some personal time out. Start to distance yourself from him and become more independent. The more you stay away and shut yourself off to him the easier it will be to pull away. If there is violence or emotional abuse then it really shouldn't be too hard to not look back. Everyone deserves to be happy even those of us who made a great effort to try to make things work. Stop concentrating on how you look on the outside to people and work on how you look to yourself from the inside out. Find that inner strength and with it will come the power to walk away. Stay strong and be careful.
2006-09-08 00:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to have a firm decicion. Yes means yes and no means no. If you're saying you want to get out of that crazy relationship, you should make up your mind to let go. If you can do this, then you will have the courage to do so.Focus on your goal at all cost . Forget the former things. Don't even think about holding him back because sooner or later you wil learn that that kind of relationship won't even last a day. JUST DO IT.
2006-09-08 00:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about physical looks. You stated that you can't find the strength to get out of a crazy relationship. Figure out what your true fears are. Is it because you're afraid to be alone? Sometimes you can be with someone and still feel alone. If that is the case, getting out would free you and you can learn to heal yourself and then find the type of relationship you're looking for.
2006-09-08 00:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by 00jag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship for ten years, so I know where you are coming from.......You will just have to say, "enough is enough and I deserve better than this", as I did......I feel for you and know what you are going through, but now I am married to a wonderful man and can't even FATHOM why I was EVER with that guy.....It'll get better if you let it.......Take care, you've made the first step.........
2006-09-08 00:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY IN YOUR RELTIONSHIP, THEN DO
SOMETHING ABOUT IT, ONLY YOU CAN STOP WHAT GOING
ON. IT WILL NOT GET BETTER IT BEEN 7 YEARS. AND NOTHING HAS CHANGED. YOU NEED GET THE COURAGE
AND STRENGH TO SAY I WANT MORE, AND I NOT GETTING
WHAT I NEED FROM THIS SITUAITON. AND SO I NEED TO
MOVE ON. IT MAY BE HARD AT FIRST BUT YOU NEED TO
TAKE A LEAP AND DO WHAT NEED TO BE DONE. LIFE
IS A JOURNEY AND YOU NEED TO FIND WHERE YOUR
LIES. AND YOU WILL NEVER FIND WHAT YOU LOOKING
FOR UNTIL YOU GO OUT AND FIND IT. JUST TAKE SMALL
STEPS IN THE BEGINNING AND THEN IT WILL GET MUCH
BETTER.
2006-09-08 00:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please remember those words "You are Pretty" and yes you deserve better. Trust your Instincts and your heart will guide you. If the relationship cannot be saved try to be stronger and make the move for a better Life. Honestly I Promise you WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-08 00:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by maria t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.....and have always found someone else attractive beyond explanation..........that is my out .......b/c then I know I am attracted to someone else beyond explanation and before I start messing around I get out b/c it is only fair.......have the strenghth to just say I am attracted to others and don't want to jepardize our relationship ........maintain friendship.........I've done it twice and the first time I was married.......if u need to or feel u need to get out it is ur heart and mind guiding u.........u will survive on ur own unless u need him for money etc.........and that is by no means a reason to stay..........be strong
2006-09-08 00:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Okay9 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly,....Until you get so sick of his BS. U will stay. You may be pretty now
but you might not be after he's finished with you......I've known girls who got
their teeth knocked out, or stabbed, and limbs broken. How much more do
you have to take ?? Enough is Enough Girlfriend. SAVE YOURSELF. Go &
learn about WHO YOU ARE.........get support.....with other girls who have
been through it. And the ones who have gotten out.......like me. And it took
me 9 yrs. Barely made it out......But I give thanks to GOD for helping me !!
2006-09-08 00:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are never trapped.you have a right to be happy.life is so short.today you say you've been together 7 years.....then it will be 10 years and so on.if you can't work it out and you have tried eveything you know to try....then that's that.you can't MAKE someone care,either they do or they don't.
2006-09-08 00:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by marie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is always hard. Just get out of it and you will feel better.
2006-09-08 00:45:41 · answer #11 · answered by sassy girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋