I have a huge prob......... I have a guy that I hv been going out with for more than a year. Now this Doctor has proposed to me. My family LOVES him. and.........I refused him.Now, my family is acting weird. They are treating me differently. The few days that this Doc guy was in the picture, my parents treated me so well. Now, since I totally refused they are treating me so differently. and this is killing me. I feel like I hurt them. This has gone so far that my parents are not even talking to me properly. I feel like I di dthe worst mistake of my life. Now they are even cursing me and I can't take it. They are making predictions that this affair that im currently having will end in disaster. I dont know what to do about this. It is totally ruining me and I'm lost. I know this sounds stupid, but I sometimes am so down that I feel like running away or suicide or something. I KNOW IT'S STUPID....what do you guys think?
2006-09-07 17:22:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Umm....I'm 20...not married. The doc proposed to me and at the moment I hv a boy friend whom i hv been with for more than a year...don't misunderstand me.... my parents are trying to give me in marriage to the doctor.
2006-09-07 18:05:18 · update #1
Your life your body your mind=
YOUR CHOICE
Your family needs to respect that.
2006-09-07 17:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ron K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek professional help. The thought of suicide is nothing to be glossed over. I also believe that you and only you decide where life takes you. I do wonder why you would run away or endanger yourself if you have made the right decision for you. Why do you call it "this affair"? Is it somehow a bad thing? If he is married then hands off and be more mature. He is taken.
2006-09-07 17:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Steve O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is reacting on what they think is best for you. Key words here are WHAT THEY THINK. Obviously they like the Doctor because they're assuming that he will be able to provide for you. However, if your heart's not in it, then there's really nothing you can do. Ultimately it's your life and you will be the one living with the decisions you've made. If your family is treating you differently because you want to follow your heart, then have a talk with them and tell them everything you just said. Tell them that it breaks your heart that they don't trust you enough to make decisions for yourself. Tell them that they don't have to like your decision but they have to respect it. And if nothing changes, then there's nothing you can do. Unfortunately, family is family. We can't kick them out of our lives. If things work out between you and the other guy, don't go living your lives trying to prove to your family that you made the right decision. You don't have to prove anything to anybody as long as you're happy. But right now, this very moment, you need to learn to stand up for yourself and break the tension. Not because you have to prove anything but because you love them and want them to understand you.
2006-09-07 17:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said the word affair right? Is this an affair with a married man and if so why would you want to be with a married man instead of a single one? If you are having an affair with a married man, shame on you. Find true love with a single man.
2006-09-07 17:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Apostolic Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off, you shouldnt be feeling regret just because your family and parents dont approve of your decisions. You sound like a grown woman, and grown women can make their own decisions--follow your heart, your mind and your soul--dont do something because someone else thinks you should or shouldnt, just be yourself.
2006-09-07 17:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Gary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should marry someone YOU LOVE. I have a friend married to a dr and she never sees him, saving lives is his life
Do you love the dr and your fmily is acting like that cause then they could be like yeah shed have money then and I can brag shes married to a dr.
Just sit and think which one do you love?
2006-09-07 17:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with the person you love..........
Doctors do make a lot of money, but your heart is more important. and in the end just tell your parents you love this guy
2006-09-07 17:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by D'reux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the prestige of being married to a doctor is more important than your emotional health to your family.....I think that you made the wise choice, and if your family is against it, well, too bad for them....Tell one of THEM to marry him, if they want him in the family so bad......Good for you for sticking up for yourself, and keep your head up......They'll get over it........
2006-09-07 17:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it your still young, do what makes you happy your the one that has to live with your decision not them.
2006-09-07 18:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by SUZANNA J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If its true love, then you're family will see it one day.
2006-09-07 17:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by sexykitty614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋