I'm not sure why, but I have concerns for one of my co-workers at work getting a divorce. I think she's just going through the typical mid-30's crisis. I don't want to see her go through this because she has 3 beautiful girls and a husband that really cares about her. It actually broke my heart when I saw him come in the other day with roses for her. If she really feels she can't take it any more than so be it. But if there is any advise I might be able to give her to get her back on track send it my way please.
2006-09-07 17:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by sweet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has she tried marital counseling or even personal counseling? You might be able to suggest this option to her.
2006-09-07 17:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a person who wants everyone to be happy. That's a great ideal, but an impossible one. If your co-worker has a definite reason for wanting a divorce, nothing you do or say will change her mind.
However, she should probably try counseling, if not for her marriage, for herself. She should think about what the consequences of her decision will be on her children, especially the youngest one. This decision could come back to bite her in the butt in the future.
Maybe you don't know the whole story of why she wants a divorce. You should be a good friend, and just be a shoulder for her to cry on, and an ear for her to talk to.
2006-09-07 17:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. There could be more going on then she is willing to tell you. Just because a guy brings you roses does not mean that you should take him back. It is her life let her lead it the way she wants to. Just be her friend and lend a open ear do not criticise her decisions.
2006-09-07 17:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that on the surface things might appear to be fine, but underneath there could be more to the story than she is letting you know. Advise counseling, but I wouldnt push anything, some issues she might not be willing to discuss, even with the closest of friends.
2006-09-07 17:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Gary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her decision. All you can do is be there for her. It is not your place to try and intervene. Advise her. Listen to her. Be her friend. Above all don't interfere. You can change only one person in the world, yourself.
2006-09-07 17:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Steve O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out the real reason. If she is "unhappy" tell her to seek help. "Happy" is an illusion. If there is no abuse, tell her to consider her children. Most things can be worked out.
2006-09-07 17:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by peace1274 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for her! That's all you really can do. Hopefully God will touch her heart and she will do what she needs to do.
2006-09-07 17:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Apostolic Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you mind ur own buisiness
2006-09-07 17:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋