have anything to do with me except my grandparents.sept.8, is my grandmothers birthday i was supposed to spend the day with her she has since called to tell me one of my aunts will be there i think it is really a surprise party.that means my kids will be there would it be wrong for me to show up anyways at least i will see my 4 daughters i haven't seen in years
2006-09-07 17:07:57 · 4 answers · asked by 38fsacramento 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do not see what would be wrong with it depending on the reasons for giving your children up. If you a better person now and think you should be able to see your kids do not let them stop you...
2006-09-07 17:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you gave up your parental rights, you need to respect your aunt's decisions while the kids are minors. Your kids don't need to be pulled into the middle of all the family problems you are having. Plus, it would probably un-nerve your kids to see you for a few minutes after not seeing you for years and then watch you leave them again. I would let the kids alone. They deserve some stability and seeing you for a few minutes would blow it. It's too bad that your aunt told you "the lie," but she has custody and can change her mind if she wants to.
2006-09-08 00:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call your grandmother and ask her. If you still have a good relationship with her. However your Aunt would need to be told of your coming, and it would be up to her to either put up with you being there or opt out of seeing her mother on her birthday. Let it be your grandmothers choice and don't be offended if she decides she wants her natural children there instead. You can pick another day to spend with her as a make up birthday. Please make sure to send your daughters cards and as many letters as possible then in the end when they are grown you won't look like the "bad" guy. Good luck
2006-09-08 00:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by brattsmommy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did they say why not to visit.....Perhaps they fear your not a good influence on the kids ... Speak with the Aunt(s) and repair the relationship with the care givers ... show them your not just gonna swoop in and stir the pt and run..... let them know the interest you have is heart felt and genuine ... they will come around ... after all you haven't seen them in years .... give the time needed to make the repairs ... they try again
2006-09-08 00:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋