How long can I wait to have my first baby? I will be 35 in October!?

Question

Uf! I hate to think there is a biological clock but I know there is

Answer 1

You need to check with your gyn. When I wanted to donate my eggs to a friend at the age of 35 I was told they were too "mature". You are getting to the age where your body is changing and moving towards menopause(yes many women start peri menopause in their late 30's).

You are running the risk of more complications during your pregnancy, having a harder time getting and staying pregnant and also multiple births, which believe me, isn't easy at any age.

Then there is the other side. Your baby is a baby for about 30seconds. Then its a child and it becomes its own person. This is not a job for the weak of heart or stamina. How old do you want to be when they go to college? Right now you are looking at being 53+ when the child goes to college, is that what you want to be doing with your money when you should be saving for retirement?

These are all the questions you need to ask yourself, most of what parenting is really about isn't ever talked about or explored. People spend more time on what they are going to name their little bundle of joy than they spend on figuring out how they deal with a kid, their own health problems and probably their aging parents.

All of these things can happen to a younger woman too, of course, but you are not going to do anything but age. If you want children, then figure out what is holding you back and fix it. Before you don't have the choice any longer.

Answer 2

I've been reading about this a lot, as I am 32 and desperately want to have children. After 35, medical risks do increase. Fertility dramatically decreases in late 30s, early 40s, making conception more difficult, often impossible, even with medical assistance. My advice to you is do not postpone any longer than necessary, because you will always wonder what would have happened if you are unable to conceive at a later date....if you're ready, then start trying! If you are not, begin to think about adopting when you are, and get used to the possibility of not having biological children to prepare yourself for the emotional turmoil that may cause. Good luck to you!!! I hope that things work out for the best!

Answer 3

It is different for every woman. Women do not continually produce new eggs, we have the same ones our whole lives. And for some women they are not in satisfactory condition after a certain age--sometimes 35, sometimes 45. There are women who decide to start a family at your age or later and realize it's too late. If you are ready to have a child and would really like to, you should start pretty soon. Also, there are more risk-factors as you get older, like a higher chance of having a down-syndrome baby. I'm sure it's hard not to feel pressured, but you do need to understand the risks and downfalls of waiting longer. You should do some research on the web to learn more details. Good luck!

Answer 4

I would plan for soon. The older you get you risk more complications. I wouldnt advise waiting till 40. My aunt just had twins yesterday and she is 43. One survived and the other passed away with a whole in her heart shortly after birth. The babies were premies and 3 months early. She did everything right but the doctor claims age could have very well been a factor.

Answer 5

I would say, try to have it as soon as possible. The thing is, it 's pretty hard to take care of them, especially the first year. First three years of baby's life will be not easy for you because they will take ALL of your energy, free time, and attention. Also they grow fast; it will be like 1-2-3 before you will have to come up with the money for college.
In short, if you feel that you're ready, go ahead and have a child right away. You will be glad you did.

Answer 6

Honey I have 2 under the age of 2 and I am 28 years old going on 80. Do it as soon as you can if you are going to do it at all. It is the best thing I ever did but if I hit 30 and no baby I wouldn't do it over again. Women who hit 40 and have babies deserve medals. It is exhasuting.

Answer 7

You must know that your eggs will be getting quite long in the tooth if you wait until 40. You are risking a whole host of birthdefects ranging from down syndrome to heart problems in the fetus. Not to mention woman who have children late in life are more likely to get gestational diabetes. Preganancy later in life is very hard on the mother's body. If I were you and I truly wanted children I would start now.

Answer 8

I had a baby, though not my first, when I was 39. Healthy women can bear children well into their 40's, although the risk of Down's does increase with age. Good luck!

Answer 9

Oh Honey I will be 23 in October (Happy B-day... Libra?) and I feel like I'm past due...but I have no man...So I'll wait until God says it's time so I guess the answer is whenever God decided your ready.

Answer 10

I think your clock may need some help at that point, but 45 is still do-able. And with modern science, you can up that to 50.