ok here it is i'm 24 been with my b\f for 10 years and have 3 kids with him. this is my day wake up get kids brekkie make sons lucnh for school hubby calles me in room give him sex than go make him coffee and brekkie he gos to work take son to school come home clean house make kids lunch put them down for nap hubby comes home for lunch give him sex than make hes lunch he gos back to work i do more house work than pick son up from school hubby comes home from work i get hes after noon tea and drinks than i started dinner at 4.pm than have dinner on table at 4.55pm than i go to work than come house do washin up from dinner than go to watch my shows than hubby was to go to bed so i do and yes sex again than it starts all over a gain the next day. but heres the thing if i say i dont wont it he say that i dont do anything for him how is that cause when he wonts something i get for him and i do he washing and everything else for him but i have to say my kids dont miss out on anything just me
2006-09-07 15:59:46 · 21 answers · asked by OceanBlue 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
olivia i'm not really complaning about the sex but 3 days a day dont do it for me anymore cause i'm so tired,
googolullage shopping malls never been in to them i still have the colthes i moved out of home with and that was 9 years ago
2006-09-07 16:25:35 · update #1
thank u to all i will take it all in
2006-09-07 16:27:29 · update #2
speechless
2006-09-07 16:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your perceptions are accurate, not imaginary. And your life must be pretty boring.
Take some time out for yourself, outside the house, with or without the little ones.
Don't you SHOP?? Isn't that why women stroller around the malls?
I thought you English were more exciting than you make it all sound.
Maybe you got linked up and tied down too soon. Having kids early in life, not fully sowing your wild oat flakes as a teen, not healthy. Your development has been a lot stunted by that man in your life.
2006-09-07 23:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.. I'm not sure if you're complaining about the sex or not? If you don't want to have sex as often.. simply say so. You can't be upset with him for having sex with you if you've never expressed any opinions about not wanting to 'go at it' so often. As far as taking care of the house and kids; there's a lot of grey area here. The idea is that you both contribute an equal amount into the household/family. His comes in the form of going off to work while yours is more staying home and keeping things in line there. The way you described it really leaves me wondering which part it is that you feel upset about? All of it? Certain parts that you just had a hard time pointing out? Things are what you make of them. If you don't want to be a stay at home Mom, let him know. Get the ball rolling on both of you working and figuring out how to get things at home taken care of. If you're ok with him working and you staying home, then you should understand that the 'bulk' of the house work falls on you. BULK, not all. And like I said about the sex thing, you didn't mention whether or not this is something you've talked with him about. You're not obligated to have sex with him. If this isn't something that you both enjoy, then you should tell him that you want to really cut back on it.
Update: I feel you there. I personally wouldn't want to have sex three times a day all the time. That alone is enough to put me in a bad way. Except maybe on the weekend. I wasn't suggesting that three times a day is too little or too much though. What I was suggesting is that you bring it up to him. Sex shouldn't be something that one person wants and the other person goes along with. If you haven't told him that sex three times a day is too much for you sometimes, you can't blame him for doing it? He might very well think he's doing it just as much for you as he is for himself. You can't leave him out of the loop on these things. NOW if you have talked to him about this and he doesn't change how things are, then you need to be the adult that you are and just say no. Simple as that. It's best to handle this situation with as little friction as possible, but if he won't respect your opininos and preferences, then you'll have to be a little more 'bold' about acting out your preferences. The main theme of my answer was inquiring if you have expressed these concerns to him? If you haven't, can anyone truely say that he's doing anything wrong at all? He only knows what you show him. So keep him in the loop. You ask how his day was. He says fine. Says the copy machine broke. Etc. You talk about his day. Then he asks about yours. Tell him that sometimes these days take a toll on you and that you need to lighten the load a little. You'd like to maybe go a couple of days without sex and maybe put off some of the house work til this weekend. There are endless ways you can go about this without it being a problem.
2006-09-07 23:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing everything, maybe you will get lucky and he will go find someone else to use. WHY would you let someone treat you like that? You are not teaching your kids anything good about a relationship and 50/50. Save your kids from the same B.S you are allowing him to do. You can only feel sorry for yourself untill now. You have enough advise to DO SOMETHING about it!
2006-09-07 23:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww im sorry but he doesn't sound like a guy i would want to be with! you do not have to give him sex whenever he wants. you should only do it when you want it too. and you do do a lot being a wife and mother is a full time job. im married and only have one baby and i feel like i do a lot. i can only imagine having three and taking care of a needy husband. i understand how you feel used, and cuz i know i would. he needs to appreciate you more. it sounds like you need a break. go and spend a day with some of ur girlfriends. you would feel so much better.
2006-09-07 23:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by sexymama06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should do something for you self and let your husband look after the kids, you have girls night out or go to yogi once a week or something you enjoy out of the house. He is a grow man let him make his own lunch. Don't be ready to please him all the time when he say jump.
2006-09-07 23:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've lived a few lives already in 24 years. Unless he's putting a gun up to your head, you don't have to give him sex.....and I'm a guy saying this mind you........sounds to me like he's got it made of course there are always three sides to any story....his, hers, and the truth.
2006-09-07 23:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by brewbeer212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 'm not sure but if I were you i would get a job what happens if this leads to divorce your stuck with 3 kids and no money?
2006-09-07 23:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by kebbler80011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it sounds like you do all the housework and are a good mother and your husband is just some crazy sex wierdo I dont think he appreciates you and all that you do and he needs to stop using you as some sex slave because you deserve better then that
2006-09-07 23:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say ........Help Me with House work and with the kids or no sex for you
2006-09-07 23:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you seemed bored with your daily routine in life.. and you feel like you've been used... umm.. try going on a vacation or get a hobby your still young explore the life
2006-09-07 23:07:07 · answer #11 · answered by jjt168 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋