If someone is abusive to others especially their wife, can they change? Do you think once a beater, always a beater? Once a cheater, always a cheater?
2006-09-07 15:47:44 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While it is not true 100% of the time that a cheater is always a cheater and a beater is always a beater, who would want to take the chance? Sure, he may change (maybe 1% can change) but why risk your safety to find out? There really are good men out there if you look in the right places. The good men are the ones who will treat a woman with respect. They make great husbands and fathers. They are not found in bars or other clubs. They are the ones who may not be a perfect "10", but they are the most handsome men you can find if you look at what is inside.
2006-09-07 15:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People seldom change, unless it's the result of an earth shattering experience. An abusive spouse is abusive, because their spouse puts up with it, and a cheater continues to cheat for the same reason. Sure, their spouse might get upset, be angered or hurt by it, but if their spouse forgives them, then in their mind it's over, as if it never happened.
2006-09-07 15:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a person can change but only when faced with something that humbles them into realizing what they have done was wrong. The next step is to get help so they learn how to handle their problem in a different way.
But yes everyone can change...they just have to want to for the right reasons and just do it.
2006-09-07 20:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they don't change. They pretend for a while to gain your trust and then start all over again. eed to eleminate these people from your life. Abusers start out small and some times end up killing the abused person. Find a nice person and leave the rest behind.
2006-09-07 15:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by ELIZABETH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no, it really depends on the person. But I will tell you this, most stay the same or change very little. Only a person who wants to change can do it. It's not easy for them to change. If the person is willing for outside help, that would be best too. But if they are not willing to change then it is hopeless, Good Luck!
2006-09-07 16:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by tm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way they can change is to have a life altering experience. Whether they get hit up side the head with a frying pan or some illness or accident. Something has to drastically change for them. They cant do it with court appointed therapy. Like an alcoholic......they have to be ready to change or its not happening.
2006-09-07 16:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by linluv2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone can change it just depends on if they really want to or not. THere is never a once a......always a......because they made the choice to be a once a....and a always a......... If you know what I mean.
I have known men that were in bad relationships and had no clue how to treat a lady but they made the choice to get their anger under control and learn to deal with it.
So no i dont believe in the once a......always a.......
2006-09-07 15:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
as long their wife's and people allow them to they will always be an abuser and a cheater, plus no one change overnight
2006-09-07 16:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by purelle31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's highly unlikely they really change. If you're in such a relationship, please seek help right away. Please don't stay in an abusive relationship. There are people who can help you. Look in your phone book for the nearest women's shelter. It's usually in a special section. There's also a National HelpLine. Here is the numbers 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
http://www.ndvh.org/
2006-09-07 15:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by eyz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that most likely the person is going to change for the worse! You may be able to stop his cheating ways for a while but if the opportunity presents itself again lets just say "Opps I did it again"!!!
2006-09-07 15:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋