my boyfriend is acting so different to me now, he's being mean to me like calling me names and stuff. I know that there's people out there trying to get him to hate me and not love me no more. i've talk it out with him alot of times but it seem like he'll get mad if i wanna talk things out. and i just don't want to lose him because he's my boyfriend the one i love with all my heart and plan to love him forever. what should i do?
2006-09-07 15:35:29 · 29 answers · asked by innocent g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hon, you might not be able to change his mind. If he doesn't trust you, he's probably not the one for you anyhow. It might hurt since you still love him, I know, but you have to end this relationship if he is not treating you well and is not trusting you. Maybe he will realize his mistake and come running back to you; maybe he won't. But in the long run, you will be better off for having faced the issue rather than pretending like everything is still ok. Even if this guy isn't the one, then another will be! Good luck.
2006-09-07 15:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this hun but plan something else. When most guys start to act like that it usually means he really does wanna break up but hasn't got the guts to say so. He or one of his mental giants of friends has most probably come up with the fool proof plan of insult u, piss u off, n if necessary hurt u emotionally until u reach ur limit and dump him. That way, in warped weird male logic, he's not the a**hole cuz he didn't break up with u although he's relieved u did the dirty work. I may be wrong, for your heart's sake i hope i am but unfortunately experience n intuition is sayin otherwise. Good luck girl n if it all turns to s**t, just remember ur guy, ur real true love, is out there somewhere so if u settle for a loser before u find him ur breakin ur heart and ur true love's.
2006-09-07 22:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You plan on loving someone who doesn't love you forever? Sounds lonely.
Love isn't mean, doesn't call you names, or listen to other people who say he should hate you.
It's hard to stop loving someone - you don't ask to love someone, you either do or you don't - but you can decide what to do about it. The person you need to love forever here is yourself, and not let yourself drag around after someone who isn't treating you with respect.
Love him forever, if you want, from a distance - but probably, once you start meeting new people and build a life for yourself that you enjoy, you'll find new people who will be much more important to you, and who will treat you well. Good luck!
2006-09-07 22:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be mean at all, I mean this seriously. Why in the world do you want to be with someone who is being mean to you. I could understand if you aked how you might change his behavior. I assume he was not always like this, but, tell him that the way he is acting is hurting you and if he doesn't want to change, I'm sorry, but you are better off finding someone who respects you.
2006-09-07 22:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to spend your life with someone who calls you names and is mean to you? Do you think so little of yourself that you will throw yourself at the feet of a person who will continue to treat you like that?
Learn to Do for You. Protect your Self. Hanging around someone like that will do nothing but harm your Self, your Soul, YOU.
Do what's best for you and you'll find better things await.
2006-09-07 22:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hun I know this is gonna seem mean but I do not mean it too but u need 2 get a clue...this is not the right guy 4 u. u need 2 move on before u become a stalker.
good luck n know that the right one is out there just not this guy.
2006-09-07 22:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like he deserves your love. Don't plan on loving him forever if he doesn't want it. If he doesn't want to be with you anymore he will tell you soon enough so try to prepare for the worst. Most likely it is not your fault so don't blame yourself just try to move on.
2006-09-07 22:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by alter_egob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are in a bit of a rut. It's hard but maybe just give him a break and say nothing maybe in time he will come round just dont pressure him. chin p things will work out for the best if he leaves then he doesnt deserve such a kind heart like yourself.
2006-09-07 22:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Emma G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're looking for ways to please him by altering yourself don't! If you think doing nice things will change him, it won't. He's sabotaging the relationship to do what he wants to do and making you feel guilty. It's an old playboy trick. If he's getting mad over small things (redflag). If it's his way to get out of spending time with you he's not sure of himself. Look shorty don't do nothing but watch him(not stalk Him) answer to your question do nothing.
2006-09-07 22:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ju Lover Supreme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are but, if he is not treating you good I feel you should get a new boyfriend who will love you for you and not for what people are saying about you.
2006-09-07 22:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by thats me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋