Bullying Problem! Help me so I won't hurt this stupid bully.?

Question

Every morning, I set out on my bike to High School. As I pass one corner, a group of junior high kids wait for their bus. One paticular kid is increasingly getting worse in his actions. First few times he makes comments. Then he starts jumping in front of me. Then he somehows has the same wooden stake out every morning now. Lately, he will start walking slowly in a way so that his path will intersect with me perpindicularly (with the stick) like he is going to throw it but doesn't. Now, he has cross the line and actually threw the stake at my spokes.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???!!!

Answer 1

take some karate lessons man!

Answer 2

Tell your parents, the school administration, and most importantly the police.

If you can, have a friend videotape his actions as evidence.

Even though you are under 18, in most states you can still take out a restraining order against him. If not in your state, your parents can take it out. If he violates it then, off to juvenile hall he goes.

You might also want to talk to your parents about suing his parents over the incidents -- that will get their attention for sure.

Some have suggested that you learn karate, etc -- I actually agree, you should definitely know how to defend yourself, but DON'T USE IT unless he manages to back you into a situation from which you can't escape. If you beat his @$$ the way he deserves, chances are he will report YOU to your parents, the principal, the police, etc. and YOU will get in trouble, because you are older. This is just what bullies do -- they are @$$hole$ and they work the system to their own advantage, abusing every rule there is. I know, I got bullied a lot in school myself. Ultimately I just avoided them whenever I could, and toughed it out because I couldn't get any support from the school authorities -- but schools back then were not so proactive about bullying. In the post-Columbine years, they take it a lot more seriously.

High School years are tough. I wish I could tell you they get better, but they don't. However, life gets a LOT better once you graduate and go on to college. One nice thing about bullies -- they are generally too stupid to go on to college, and most of them actually are too stupid to finish High School. You, on the other hand, show that you have good common sense, write in proper English and use good grammar, and ask questions when you need help -- you show yourself to be a very intelligent young person who definitely has a good future ahead. Again believe me, I know from firsthand experience, that the best revenge of all is reading about the people who bullied you getting arrested and sent to prison a couple years from now, which is ultimately what will happen to them. It has happened to everyone who bullied me and somehow I have not managed to feel really sorry for them...

Answer 3

If I were you, I'd tell the police and ask them if one could watch the area (unseen) and he can deal with the bully when he sees what he does. That should do the trick. Other than that, can you ride a different route in that area? Perhaps one street over? Another option would be to report this to the school principal where this kid goes to school. He will probably lose his bus privilege. The one thing you should not do is allow this to continue. There's no excuse for bullying!

Answer 4

I'm a pacifist. Avoid confrontation if at all possible by avoiding that bus stop. If he starts messing with you at school, immediately report him to your school principal -not your counselor. Counselors just pat you on the head and forget about you as soon as you walk out of the door. You may want to check to see what rules your school has regarding bullying. Here in Illinois, bullying is seen as such a problem that there are certain guidelines that the state wants schools to follow.

Please don't fight violence with violence. If this kid is standing on the bus stop with a group, you could end up seriously outnumbered and fatally wounded because of mob mentality.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I am 64 years old.

When I was at school, around the age of 12, I was bullied by a boy.

It made my life a missery. I didn't want to go to school - I used to dread getting up in the mornings.

Sometimes I would pretend I wasn't well so I could have the day off.

If I could wind the clock back 52 years, I would go up to that kid and punch him on the nose - no matter how much bigger he was than me. Ok, he would have hit me back - but it would have all been over with. Once you stand up for yourself they leave you alone.

Incidently, I still see this other "kid" around.
He is now bent over with back problems and looks 90.
I'm athletic and walk up to 100 miles cross-country non stop.

Answer 6

Unfortunately you can't hit him except in self defense, or you will have legal problems. How about buying a disposable camera and getting shots as you get closer, showing that he is advancing on you.

When he sees the camera, he will be motivated to do something physical. When he does, make sure when the bike crashes the handlebars go through his spleen, or left eye.

If you pepper spray him, he'll say you attacked him for no reason.

Or you could carry a big bag of feces to school......

Answer 7

You should do what you need to do. Teach him a lesson. Tomorrow, when you are on your way to school you get off your bike near the corner. (don't let it get stolen) Then you should confront this young miscreant. (man I HATE those lil punk types) Tell him not to EVER do ANYTHING like that (right in front of all his cronies) If hes fresh at all push him down. If he continues throw him around alil. If he starts to fight back sock him a few times and throw him down some more, make him submit. That should teach him some humility.

Be confident, you know you could level him, let him and all his friends know too. Forget about the law and all that, its a lil scrap not a mauling. I have been in half dozen fights in school and when I was younger. I never got more than detention and scolding.

I hope you aren't 18 btw.

Answer 8

Get up a little earlier and walk past this corner and get a couple of friends to go with you.Put on different clothes so your not easily reckonised until your right on top of him and his group(if they are his group,that is) and walk up and grab him and push him against the wall or telephone pole and ask him in a very loud voice WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM MISTER WITH ME AND MY BIKE? Meanwhile your 2 or 3 friends have got your back covered so none of the group tries to interfere. With your hands around his collar or a hold of his Tee Shirt repeat the question again and and get a very deep LOUD, ASSERTIVEvoice say if you mess with me again YOUR BUTT IS MINE!!!!!! Then let go of his shirt and straighten up his collar and brush him off like your cleaning him up and say in a low calm voice"Now do we have an undrstanding PAL"? He will nod his head(while shaking in his boots) and /or indicate yes Thats when you and your buddies wlk on to school

Answer 9

Talk to your Dad Or your Mom. First don't get advice from people who cant hug you,

Jr high school kids are EVIL. You seem like a peaceful kid Take another path to school.
I want to tell you to get off your bike and Give the Kid a Wedgie and purple nerpple him till he wets himself. But kids today have guns. I think he is getting more aggressive because he thinks your scared of him and he is showing off.If you get off your bike he will run. But kids today have guns.
So be care full.

Answer 10

It sounds like this kid has insecurity issues and wants to impress his friends by showing them what a "badass" he can be. See if you can confront him alone and appeal to his common sense. If you can't resolve this, your choices may be limited. Either pick another route, change your schedule a little to miss him or you can take the low road an pound the snot out of him in front of his friends. I'm fairly certain he'd stay far away from you if it came to that.

Answer 11

Tell your parents.. Could you possible go on the opposite side or wait until that bus has picked up everyone.. I know its ashame and you probably don't want to tell the school but you really should.. He is a big bully...He is so insecure with himself that he has to attack an innocent person going to school who has done nothing.. Its really sad and ashame... Watch your back.. He is the type who will show up at school with a weapon