I have a friend, shes really fly by the seat of her pants and just goes and goes when she pleases, NOTHING wrong with that BUT I have a schedule I stick to. So she comes over and she's like where are the kids, Im like LISTEN TO ME cause its not sinking in, for the last year and a half their nap time is at this TIME, ALWAYS!
Or she will come by when they are getting ready for bed, shes like why are they going to bed so early my kid just got up from her nap at 730pm, im like well good for you but these guys are going to bed.
Or she says she wants to meet somewhere , then changes location, or this or that. Its so exhausting, it feels like I have a 3rd child.
There are days when she calls and I just dont answer.
Do you guys have freinds like these or aquintanaces. I mean I love her and all but shes so dang forgetful or doesnt bother to remember !
2006-09-07 15:27:37 · 16 answers · asked by wilowdreams 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are people who are scatter-brained, there are people that are..well..not real smart, and there are people who just simply don't give a sh** about anyone else. Not sure where she fits in.
I know what you mean. I had a friend who would tell me things over and over because she'd forgotten she already told me, she'd forget we had plans, etc. But at the same time it was obvious that she never cared about me, my time, things in my life, etc. It's draining! So draining I said...bah bye. :)
2006-09-07 15:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Majesty 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she thinks the world revolves around her.
When she comes by unannounced, meet her at the door and tell her it isn't a good time, smile, and close the door.
When she shows up at nap time, let her know that it is nap time for you, too, and you need to take some time just for yourself alone.
When she changes the time or place of a meeting, just tell her you had planned to go to the first place so you won't be able to make it to the other but you'll see her another time.
It's ok not to answer the phone.
Stick to your guns about what you need to run your home, your family, and your sanity. A friend will respect that. If she doesn't, she isn't your friend.
2006-09-07 15:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your schedule - once and only once. Tell her she needs to call before she comes over and that you do not answer the phone after XX o'clock (and then don't).
If she can't respect you enough to do those things, then she doesn't respect you at all. She is being very thoughtless and she needs to be reminded that the world does not revolve around her.
I used to have a friend just like that. I tried and tried and was so worn out from her that I finally just told her to go away and leave me alone - I didn't have time and I wasn't going to make time for her anymore. It was not good and I really did miss her for a while, but it was great to get my life back even more.
2006-09-07 15:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend simular to that it gets a bit draining like last night she wants me to go on a road trip with her and I just want a weekend to myself she doesnt understand that and wont take no for an answer, i mean my son is staying with his auntie and is giving me a break why would i want to go some where when i could be relaxing at home and getting things done.
I know exactly where you are coming from its a pain in the back side hey?
2006-09-07 15:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is very needy. She is always depressed and whatever you have hers is always worse, bigger, better, no matter what. Many times I have wanted to break off the friendship but that is so hard to do. We all have bad times but she forgets that I have them too. If I try to talk to her about a problem I have she will say "that's nothing , let me tell you about my day". I just want to scream!! Best of luck, wish I could help!
2006-09-07 15:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by thrill88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who used to tire me out mentally, then I found out about some things that were going on in his life. I came to understand that the crazy stuff he said and did were a reaction to the turmoil that he was experiencing; I learned not to take things so personally as I did earlier on.
2006-09-07 15:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of friends that are like that. I am just the opposite and it drive me crazy.
2006-09-07 15:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that you have a friend who wants to be around you, yes I would get tired of that also, but good friend are hard to come by......
2006-09-07 15:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Loads. Just tell them to shut up when they are going on for too long. That works.
2006-09-07 15:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the exact same way, I think for some of us it is normal, for me certain people drain the life out of me.
2016-03-27 02:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋