reason, right? Or no? He says he's stopped watching porn. But I dunno.
2006-09-07 15:09:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Answers from born again christians only, please.
2006-09-07 15:12:39 · update #1
Definitely do not divorce for this one reason. We are all humans and have our own struggles. This could be one of his. As long as he knows it is wrong and is willing to commit to your relationship, work it out.
2006-09-07 15:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, she asked for answers from born again Christians...I'm not sure all of you read that part.
Watching and/or performing in pornography is morally wrong, there's no question about that. God created sex to be enjoyed by a husband and wife. He didn't intend for anyone else to peep and get their rocks off watching anyone else. There are a lot of people who will tell you that it's normal and everyone watches/does it. But, that doesn't make it right.
That being said, as hard as it is, I don't believe this is enough of a reason to divorce your husband, especially if he admits he is wrong and is willing to try and change. The changing part can be more easily said than done, since this is an addiction. In addition to praying about it and trying to be supportive, instead of judgemental, it would not hurt for you to suggest counseling so he can be totally delivered from his addiction. A lot of men/husbands don't understand how their porn habits are negatively affecting their wives and their marriages and counseling may help him see that. You may not see change for a long time or you may never. But, you should think of this as a sin; no better or worse than any other. And we all struggle with that.
2006-09-07 22:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by beanish80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gurl what is wrong with you! DON'T TELL ME YOUR GOING TO END A DIVORCE BECAUSE OF HIM WATCHING PORN! and a relationship with or without a bible you need trust to make it.. if you don't trust him.. than you shouldn't even had said I Do.. and second somewhere and the bible divorces is a sin.. once you've choose to be with someone for the rest of your lifetime the only time you've move on is when that person past on.. so in other words it would be wetlock.. or something like that.. if your a christian you should know that.. or maybe your taking to much time thinking about something that is pointless.. trust him.. K ^^... let god be with ya..
2006-09-07 22:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by latasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for a way out of the marriage, then you are correct in thinking that sexual immorality is a biblical reason for divorce. Are you sure that you want out? Why do you doubt that he has stopped watching porn? Don't you believe that a person can change their ways? If you are truly a Christian then you are aware that by accepting Christ into your heart you can repent your sins and be saved.
2006-09-07 22:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read the whole Bible, you will find that it's all about reconciliation. God gave Israel many chances before he "divorced" her.
Personally, I believe that UNREPENTANT sexual immorality is a valid reason, but not a command.
The nature of God is to always seek reconciliation first.
Divorce should be the last tool you use, not the first.
If you read what Jesus had to say about divorce, it was not part of God's design. God allows divorce because of the hardness of man's heart.
2006-09-07 22:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's justified reason to divorce.
M't:5:28: Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
M't:19:9: Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery.
It sounds like the problem is>>> concern about not being able to trust him in the future because of it.
Hopefully, he's not just saying he's stopped watching porn, but is making special efforts to prove to you that he can be trusted...???
2006-09-07 23:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where have you been all these years. Stop stressing the poor man. Porn is now so mainstream that men and females watch together and have the shags same time. I have never met a girl who does not like porn and if I did, it would be very short term. He should consider divorcing you for stressing him out. Chill out a bit. If you have sex you can also watch others do it.
2006-09-07 22:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, do not divorce your husband for that -- remember, it says in the Bible that "God hates divorce."
1 Corinthians 7:13 -- "And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him."
1 Corinthians 7:27 -- "Are you married? Do not seek a divorce."
It DOES say, however, that if your non-believing spouse leaves you, then let him/her leave.
Remember that we are ALL sinners . . . pray together with your husband and forgive his trespasses and ask God for guidance and help. Good luck!
2006-09-07 22:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by mingshu05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is less a problem with his former addiction than it is that the trust between you is broken. If you can not mend that trust, then the vows are broken and you are no longer bound to him.
2006-09-07 22:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as he doenst take it too far..
like someone i was really close to was a porn addict.. i didn't much care..i mean, it wasn't like he was cheating on me or nothing..its like watching a movie..w/ dirty stuff..
then he went to far.. he began going online searching for live women to masturbate on the webcam
then he would chat w/ girls online..not chat like friends.. but dirty chat..
i was upset.. so..it really depends..
if you have kids.. them keep them away from the computer and him.. kids can see that and become pervs as well.. sometimes it would go too far..
so just tell him you'll leave his 'a 's 's if he doesn't stop
but talk to your pastor for more advice
2006-09-07 22:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋