I think im really ugly and i have a self confidence prob...look at the picture and read....help me plz?

Question

well i have a self confidence problem like i hate looking in the mirror cause i think im so ugly and fat but everyone i ask thinks im really pretty and skinny and i dont think any guy likes me ..i want a high confidence like most girls do how can i achieve this what are some ways i can do

http://pic2.piczo.com/glitta-n-gloss/?pr...
thats i picture of me last year i look different this year what do you think?

Answer 1

Are you just fishing for compliments? ;)

Well, it's not as if it costs me anything to give you some... and I do hope that it's only a self-confidence issue and you are not developing anorexia or any eating disorders over your body perception....

but what I see is
- someone with large, well-shaped, expressive eyes
- someone with a wide, pretty smile (even in a school pic!)
- someone with nice skin (I'm jealous, dealing with acne still after thirty!)
- someone with cheekbones that already show through her 'baby fat' (now, hang on, I'm NOT calling you fat - what that refers to is the subcutaneous layer that babies, children, and teens retain until into their twenties, which tends to round out the bones of the face. The loss of that 'baby fat' gives the more 'mature' angular look that we associate with 'adults'.)
- someone who should think more about the good qualities she owns, both physical AND mental. Obviously I can't comment on the latter, but perhaps you can ask your girlfriends, parents, or even teachers to list one thing you are good at (and write them all down and keep the list!)

Perhaps you are good at math. Or kind-hearted. Or a great reader. Or a very patient listener. A loyal friend? A good communicator? Musical skills? Artistic gifts? Every single person has something that they are good at.

Think about your talent(s) and bring them to the foreground. They'll shine out through your eyes, trust me!

Answer 2

I think u are very pretty, not fat at all. I am thicker than you and guys think my body is sexy so of course they will think yours is too. A lot of girls have low self esteem from those women on tv, magazines, music videos etc that wear tons of makeup to cover up imperfections but in reality under all of the makeup they are not that much of a pretty site. u have a very nice looking face and shouldnt have no problem getting any attention. U should go out with your girlfriends 1 night, fix yourself up just a little and have a good time. U will see the attention you get from guys then. Good luck

Answer 3

ok...you're cute, I suppose. But the thing is...no one is going to ask you out if your self confidence is so incredibly low. It's like you're putting out an aura that's telling people "hey...I know I'm not good enough for you so why do you bother". Chances are...people will not bother with you then.

Gain your self confidence by working on things you're good at. Focus on the positive things like hobbies, friends, family and other interests and your self confidence will rise. People will begin to see your new positive attitude in your aura...the way you carry yourself, your smile, etc. Having more self confidence will make you a more attractive person and therefore, you'll attract more people (and even some boys).

Answer 4

You are a pretty girl with beautiful features, give yourself time to mature, features like you have will only be a WOW and soon. Confidence comes from knowing who you are within, try flirting a little bit at school and see what the reaction is. Sometimes low self esteem causes you to close people out unknowingly.

Answer 5

I have a dim opinion towards myself, also, but everyone is always telling me different, as well. I just face it... not everyone can be a beauty queen... matter of fact, I don't think I'd want to be simply because that's all that people would notice.... the "outside". Personality has a lot to do with how you appear to people. Shine that up and then just work with what you have on the outside. And in all actuality, probably 85% of girls think they aren't up to the standards of bein' "pretty", even someone that you might think is. The bottom line is that I wouldn't worry about it, as much. Even though I stress on this topic, myself... I don't think it's as bad as us chicks make it out to be, despite our opinions.

Answer 6

I think that you are pretty. You need to look at all the positive things about you not the negative. It sounds like someone has said somethings to you before to make you feel this way. Whoever it is that said those things to you must feel worse about themselves. I think that you could have a good future once you get rid of the negative person out of your head or around you.Peace and much love

Answer 7

I seen the picture and I do not think their is anything wrong with you. Just believe in yourself and just worry what you think. Once you do that then you will not care what other think. That will build up your confidence and attract more guys toward you. I use to be the same way, but after I realized this more women notice me and I am now in the best relationship I have even been in!!

Answer 8

Why would you think you're ugly?
First of all, Stop asking ppl what they think about you...that will help you a lot...trust me...I thought I was ugly when I was on my younger teen age years and now I know I'm not ugly(I'm a model)...to tell you the truth I believe that in most teen age girls lives there comes a time when they think they are ugly...This is normal...everyone goes throught their ugly duckling stage...I remember my gorgeous friend asking ppl if they thought she was pretty..."oh please"...As you grow this little problem will fade...you start learning how to fix yourself...Ppl have to to learn how to love theirselves because there is only one of them....

DO NOT DIET unless your doctor and guardians aprove...Too many young girls are dying in cause of Eating disorders...don't wear tons of make up, you would only hide your natural beauty, and look like a clown.
Worry about being fat unless it will affect your health...and make up only help those unwanted wrinkles at a young age...so wear make up when you want to hide those flaws that come with age.

If you really thought you were that ugly, you would NOT have posted a picture online, so deep inside you know you aren't ugly...but just want to know others opinions b/c you have your doubts...LOOK IN THE MIRROR...remember there is only one you...and everyone is beautiful in their own unique way.

want to see my pic... www.myspace.com/prettysweetz

Answer 9

you look just right, pretty actually, I know how you feel coz we have the same problem but it can be developed in time, I know it's never right to tell a person not to mind what others say coz we are all different in terms of thinking and priciples, all I can suggest is that you try to appreciate yourself more and don't compare much to others, you have your own beauty and so as other people, I am trying to see myself more and think of my good traits, that starts off my confidence in a way

Answer 10

Your adorable. There is nothing at all wrong with you. Your going to be a knock out when you get older cause your a knock out now. Trust me, If I thought you weren't pretty I wouldn't have written back to. But I am writing you back, and I am a extremely honest person, ( alot of people hate me for that reason ).