I have this friend who I'm really falling for. I posted this question a few days ago but I'm going to try and clarify. We met through her grandmother who is a good friend of mine. Well, actually I moved across country and she gave me her grandaughter's number. Anyway, when I called we hit it off really well. We used to talk for hours at a time. I sent her a pic and she told me I was beautiful :-) but when she sent hers, omg! gorgeous. Anyway, we finally met and we just stared at each other. It was kind've weird. But we got over it. Another clue I think she likes me is she reads to me at night (not every night). I like to get snuggled up in bed as she reads to me. She's always telling me how I have to come over. Now that I got a car, she tells me i can visit for the weekend . She even invited herself to go with me to another state for a Dr's appointment. But it's weird, when we get really close (talking wise) she all of a suddent backs off. what do you think?
2006-09-07 15:00:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
actually we did finally meet after 6 months of talking on the phone. We live 6 hours away from each other in different states. That night we went and saw WTC and then went shopping for dinner. We got stuff for fajitas and went back to her place where she cooked them. She did a good job. :-)
She has seen my jealous side though and she gets this little laugh when it comes out. It's cute, but then she tells me to grow up and stop letting my "flesh" come out...hehe.
She's never mentioned liking girls, but she has said that in her past she's done a lot of things and she has to watch herself because she can and has done a lot of "I'll nevers" in her life. I don't know, she's single, I'm single. She's a year older than me, i'm 25 and she's an English teacher "aka: lesbian"(just kidding).
2006-09-07 15:11:06 · update #1
wow thanks for sharing your story. at first i was going to call it a 'lovely' story but then i remembered you must be feeling very confused and frustrated. well i still think it's sweet. the fact that she shuns conversation about your relationship means that she's still uncomfortable and might very well be as confused as you are. any relationship after a lot of "i'll nevers" will make her cautious, but it's still good that you're developing yours quite nicely. i say just let things as they are, continue letting your relationship grow, but watch for opportunities. if it turns out that she doesnt like you "like that", you'll still have a great friend. one thing that might be nice to try when she reads you to sleep is to ask her to sleep in the same bed with you. tell her you're feeling particularly scared or vulnerable and just want somebody close. good luck!
2006-09-08 02:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by humdrum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a possibility that she could be seeking a platonic soul mate as girls often do. they can get as close as this without ever getting sexual and would want to stay that way.
Does she move away slightly even when you touched her gently?
she's one shy girl so you need to give her space. she'll tell when she's good and ready. for the mean time you can just assume that she's a straight girl who's really sweet.
but if you really want to know you can put one hand lightly on her waist and give her a soft kiss on her cheeck as you say goodnight. see how she reacts.
the main thing is to give her space as she's a shy but really sweet girl.
2006-09-07 23:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Langdon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... well, if i was you, i would ask her about her sexual preferences... but don't be straight to the point, cos you could scare her... make a question to her like "would you be able to kiss a girl?" or something like that... if she actually likes girls, don't waste your time, tell her about your feelings for her... but if she happens to be completely straight and she's your real friend, tell her anyway, she will understand, a real friend will never gonna leave you because of you're lesbian, remember that and go for it girl! =)
2006-09-07 17:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by le.riot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she likes you, but I can't read her mind. Try asking her out, or bring up in conversation past girlfriends to see how she reacts.
2006-09-07 15:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you 2 need to go for a meal
you sound lovely together and she may just be in denial of her true feelings
2006-09-07 15:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friend does thing that "you" would normally do to people who you think are "like that".
2006-09-07 15:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by elymendoza1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋