What to do?

Question

My husband doesn't pay me much attention anymore. We've ben together almost 4 years and been married a year and a half. He comes in from work and he's so tired, he watches tv all day. I try to do sweet things for him and sexy things to get his attention. But it seems that he just doesn't ever want to do anything. I'm not just talking about sex, but just holding me like he use to or showing a lil affection here and there. I'm beginning to feel lonely and unhappy. I've tried talkin to him, but he pays so much attention to the tv that I have to repeat myself several times. So I end up just walkin away cause he won't talk about it, or anything. We've lost comunication somewhere and I don't know what to do. I've tried everything to get his attention, but nothing seems to work. His given me a bad complex about myself. Sometimes I think of someone else. Is this my que to leave or is this just a rough spot?

Answer 1

ROUGH SPOT..your husband has forgotten how to be a lover..he is taking you for granted, thinking you will always be there...do something to shake uup his little, neat world....don't be home when he comes home...be out shopping, have some coffee, develope a life of your own. He will begin to wonder where you are and "go looking." Develop friends and enjoy them. There will come a time when he asks, "why are you always out, don't you want to be around me any more?" That is when you let him have it with both barrells...with love. Things will change dramatically. None of us can forget who we live with...they will leave us everytime, in one way or another. Good luck

Answer 2

Well, all relationships hit rough patches, if he is having long days at work, he's tired is all. I get that you feel a little lonely and that you feel like leaving, but this is the guy you vowed to be with through good and bad times.
I have an idea.................................you say TV is his interest right, treat yourself to a total make over, not an expensive one, but like a do it yourselfer. Go get your hair done (something dramatic, color, highlights or a new cut), treat yourself to a mani and pedi, buy something sexy, and record yourself on a camcorder having a conversation with him and show him the new you.
Don't know, just a suggestion. It might turn him on and you get your point across with the conversation part.

Answer 3

I would say a rough spot. I would tell him I want to talk. Then turn the tv off and tell him how I felt. He's a guy they always think its not that bad don't down play how you feel tell him exactly it always works with my husband and we've been together 10 yrs.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

This will sound silly and radical. But, if MY wife felt as you do, I'd hope she would throw our tv away. I'd much rather get along with just a radio and books than without my wife. So, toss the TV. Seriously. It's much better than letting your marriage decline until you actually start wondering IF it's time to split up. Without the boob tube, you two will almost certainly start talking more.

Answer 5

Out of curiosity - do you work? Or are you at home all the time waiting for him to get back? Do you have a life outside of the house to get your attention? Get out with people. If he doesn't want to pay attention to you, then leave him at home and find yourself a life.

Answer 6

Darling get away from him. Start packing your bags now or you regret it in years to come, you only live once. Hit the town and and have some fun.

Answer 7

write him a note and pack your bag and go away to some relatives of yours for an extended period of time. Hopefully he will get the message that you are unhapy living with him in such a terrible situation.