my ex bf just broke up with me b/c he got mad at me for some reason that i dont know but he blames the whole thing on me so i ended the relationship before he did now he blames every thing on me...probably b/c im going out with his "bestfriend" as he says. but i just want to know why guys do that.
2006-09-07 14:50:34 · 26 answers · asked by Kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It may be the lack of punctuation in your writing.
But, seriously he's just jealous, insecure, and immature. But you shouldn't be going out with any of his friends. That's a bad thing to start off with.
I had two rules when I was dating regarding friends. I didn't date my ex's friends and I didn't date my friends ex's.
2006-09-07 14:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real truth. Its BOTH of your faults. Sorry, sister. Relationships don't just take one person. IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO. And if one person is dancing at the same speed, the other person is going to get left behind. Now a breakup isn;t exactly a dance lesson, but it only serves a point. You can't dance with someone that doesn;t want to dance anymore. And they don't want to dance, anymore because they're tired of dancing. And you on the recieiving end, naturally want to keep on dancing, and pull at them, but they resist. So what do you do? Tug more? Why not try letting them rest. And dance on your own, until you tire out? I'm, learning this now, but I think I'm beginning to understand the stage of acceptance. The blaming, The blame is just a part of it. It isn;t set in stone truth. He's not looking inward, yet. In time he will. But, until then. I say grieve the loss, and learn how to deal with it. After all, what I learned most, was that we can either struggle with things we cannot change, or learn to take the ride. Don't be like me. Learn to take the ride. Its going to happen anyway, so why fight it?
2006-09-07 14:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by The Lonely Skywolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature. It's the same reason why most women will pin the blame for the cause of a break-up on the guy. Nobody wants to admit they had part in why a relationship turns sour and most of us get through a break-up and over the ex by venting to our friends about the relationship and it's easier to vent and be angry and get it out of your system if you can paint the ex as the bad guy.
2006-09-07 14:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Molly M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with his "bestfriend" is a real good way to make an enemy - sheesh, what were/are you thinking? That he thinks that is a great idea? Get a grip on reality.
That aside, people blame other people when things go wrong so they don't have to admit that they might have done something wrong themselves. Nobody wants to admit that maybe they have a flaw, that they made a mistake, that they were wrong - it is way easier to blame all that on someone else and go on about your business. Hey, don't we ALL do that sometimes?
2006-09-07 14:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause guys are dumb they blame everything on use when the finger needs to be turned on them and has for dating his bestfriend girl if he treats u better than your ex then go for it
2006-09-07 14:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely sure that's real, yet we attempt this in basic terms in moments after we bypass over our ex bf and we are indignant at them by using split.I fell like that usually yet i recognize that for an end of one relationship 2 everybody is mandatory!And that component about the girlfriends, sure that's humorous too, yet we sense that we should be on our buddy's section :)) abd do not talk to that fool :) in basic terms kidding:)
2016-11-06 21:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an easy way out. Usually no one wants to blame themselves.
2006-09-07 14:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going out w/ his bf then it just might be your fault. But guys say that becasue they are slightly dimmer than girls and don't really know how to be the better man.
2006-09-07 14:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by away.laughing.on.a.fast.camel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps them feel better about themselves. It takes the responsibility of what their actions were in the relationship off of their conscience.
2006-09-07 14:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE GUYS DON'T WANT THEIR FRIENDS TO THINK THEY DID ANYTHING WRONG, SO HE PUTS THE BLAME ON THE GIRL.
2006-09-07 14:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋