I need adult point of veiw!?

Question

Im am 17 years old and have just found out that i am five months pregnet with a lilk boy..My father thinks that since me and my boyfriend arent ready yet that i should give it up for adoption...I need other parents poit of veiw! Help!

Answer 1

Is your dad willing to help you with money and place to live while you're pregnant and afterwards.That will make a big difference.Why give away your own flesh and blood baby without a damn good reason? Do you want to keep the baby especially if you can get some help with it? Look, if 17 wasn't too young for you guys to have sex then 17 isn't too young to be a parent. Tell your old man to put that in his pipe and smoke it! There's always a way to do what you want to do if you're willing to work hard and fight for what you want. Tell your dad to start acting like a grandpa who cares about his daughter and future grandchild.

Answer 2

Congrats on your pregnancy. No matter what you decide, you are bringing a new life into this world. Adoption will change your baby and your life forever. If becoming a mother changes you, well being a birth mother will REALLY change you. Adoption is a personal decision that only you and your boyfriend can decide. Others might tell you what to do but they won't be the ones with the adoption grief and pain that even women with the most awesome adoptions experience for months and years after their child's adoption. So don't let anyone else make your decision. Look into what it would take to parent the baby and then you can decide if your baby and you would be better of if you picked adoption. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Do you want to give the baby up for adoption? I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first child and was absolutely thrilled. Then I dumped my boyfriend and was even more thrilled! lol. But seriously, this is up to you. Are you ready to give your EVERYTHING for this child? You've got a hard road ahead of you if you do. School is going to be hard, college and work even harder. Is your boyfriend supportive of either decision? Would he be willing to raise your child if you decide you don't want to? I gotta tell you, you're in an extremelly difficult situation that only you can decide the outcome for. If you decide not to put your baby up for adoption, I congratulate you and wish you the best. You're child is a miracle and blessing and will become the best thing in your life. Although, if you decide that you can't give your child the best they deserve and lean towards adoption, I still congratulate on doing what you think is best for you baby and still wish you the best. Just remember, there are programs out there for young mothers. Maybe you should look into them before you make your decision.

Answer 4

This is a hard one, sweetie. I can understand your father's position and yours. If my child came home with this I'd be very tempted to suggest they keep it but a part of me knows all too well that raising a child when your young is hard, very hard. Not that it gets any easier with age. A parent never stops worrying. If this is something you're going to end up doing alone, you may want to think of your child's well being. Check out your local chapter of Birth-right or Right to life. At least they have trained counsellors that will talk to you and your boyfriend free of charge and they may be able to suggest some options.
Ultimately you have to sit and talk to your parents and his... if you aren't going to get their support, the world can end up being very hard on a single or young parent. Remember though that sometime adoptive parents will be willing to allow you to remain a part of the child's life, it's rare but it does happen. Sometime the ultimate gift of love is to allow your child to have the possibilities an older loving couple can give.
I can't say one is better than the other both have good points and bad. But whatever decision you finally make, try to make it with a health attitude after you've looked at all the options. I don't know if this helped or not but good luck.

Answer 5

What do you and the babies Father think about it? Who says that by the time the baby gets here that you won't be ready? What is there to be ready? All the money in the world or maturity
can't make one "ready" for a baby. In the long run how will this affect your life and relationships? It sounds like your dad may be the one who suggested this, not you. You and the babys' dad should make this decision.

Answer 6

this a difficult situation, i wouldnt give your child up for adoption, you'll never know what he/she is like, it may be a rough life at first, being so young, but im sure everything will turn out fine in the long run, i would defintely keep the child and just make the situation as best as you can..... no one can give more love to a child than there own mother

Answer 7

This is a very hard question to answer as it is a personal choice for you. I personally had a baby at 19, I was too young at that age, but I did not give her up for adoption. Who knows what kind of life she may have had if I did, maybe she would have more money, or more priveledges, but I know she wouldn't have had more love.

Answer 8

I think your father is right.You should give it up for adoption.Your father knows you better than anyone on here.and adoption is better than abortion.If you put the baby up for adoption then a family that can't have kids and can and is ready to raise a child will have a chance.Plus if you did put your baby up for adoption most families will sent you letters and pictures.

Answer 9

It is up to you to decide . If it was one of my children I would want them to keep it and I would help them. I could not give up a baby. If you want to keep it there are places that help young mothers.

Answer 10

i would keep it there is places that can help you if your dad will not. but do not have an abortion what ever you do.